This weekend has been off right from the start I think. MIL and I finally had "words". Its been a long time coming, but certainly wish it had gone a bit more smoothly. And it all started over something so silly...
I was told by DH that she had bought gifts for my daughter and labeled half of them from Santa. My Mother in law, had not talked to me about this, but ever since my daughter was born, Santa only brings ONE gift to our house for each person and fills the stockings. This is the way that we have done it right from the start. Every year, when my daughter sees santa, she asks for ONE gift.. Even if she sees him 10 times, she only asks for the one gift.. thats it. I emailed my mother in law a nice email, asking if she would mind to switch the presents to just say from her and her husband. I explained the tradition and how we do it.
She phoned our house at 12am, demanding to speak to my husband. I explained he was sleeping. I ended up calling her back, saying that shes obviously mad at me, and that her and I should talk about things, as obviously things have been left unsaid for too long. She basically freaked out, yelled at me, said that i never let her do anything with my daughter (which is completely false) and a bunch of other things that I wont bore you with the details.
She ended the conversation with telling me to "F**K off" and hung up the phone. I went to bed that night, still remaining calm and very confused. I honestly did not intend for things to get so crazy.
She called the next day, I answered, and again she demanded to speak to dh. She told him to come and pick up our daughters presents. After he hung up and told me, and said that he did not want to go, he asked me to call her back and tell her that. I did. I called her and told her he was not coming, and explained again, that its between her and I with our issues, and my husband should not have to pick sides or be dragged into the middle of this. I again asked that we talk in person and sort things out. I always remained calm, did not yell, did not swear.. can't say the same for her. I pointed out a few things, as did she, and I said that we are both at fault and we need to work it out.
She basically said that shes never coming over again, that she spent the last 10 years of christmas alone and will do it again (DH moved from ON the minute he was old enough and moved here to BC).
Again, none of this was intended, I tried two times to fix it, and talk with her, but she wont have anything of it. I just dont get her, or how to deal with her. We have been at odds for 11 years. She basically does what she wants and expects people to follow along with her wishes. her kids, knowing how she reacts when they dont just kinda go along with it. I am the first one to stand up and say "no more". I refuse to be this womans doormat.
I know it all boiled over with the whole Santa thing, which I do understand is not "important" and I should have compromised, BUT she does this sort of thing all the time. Just does things and expects me to go along with it.
Its been two days, I figured she would calm down enough that we could talk.. nope...
So.. any suggestions? All opinions, are good.. perhaps there is a lesson here for me to learn, but because I can't read myself, I can't see it:)
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Do you have a storey of inspiration?
As always mentioned, I am always interested in hearing your stories of inspiration and know that alot of the storeys that have already been posted really do help restore the hope it the lives of people who are trying to conceive.
This storey does not have to be about trying to conceive, but can be about anything in your life, where you realized your lesson you needed to learn and where triumphant in achieving something.. anything that made you feel good.
As always I am willing to trade a prediction bypass (7.00) for any inspirational storey that is published on my blog.
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Here is one of my own.
I know that I am not the only one who went through this, but perhaps this will put things into better perspective for people either currently in this situation, or who have just left it, yet have not learned their lesson or dealt with it yet.
I started dating when I was 15 years old. The man I started dating was named Jay. He was 17 years old, really tall, and in my opinion good looking. He was also charming. This should have given me warning signs, but like everyone else, sometimes your heart leads the way. I remember being told by my best friend, that she found through a friend, that he was holding hands with a girl in school. When I confronted him, he denied it, saying that he was not sure what they were talking about.
I later was told he was sleeping with another girl. Yep you guessed it. Jay was my "first". (thats another long storey!) So I was pretty hurt, and again confronted him about it. He of course denied it again, and even told me to go and ask her myself if he was any good. I kid you know, the very next day during highschool she came up to me all smiling and happy. I said " Jay told me to ask you, he wants to know if he is any good?" The look on her face was enough to confirm it for me, she was in complete shock, had nothing to say, picked up her jaw off the floor and walked away. I knew then, what I guess I had known all along. For some reason I was not able to move on at this point. Jay did alot of things to my family, "borrowed" my parents car when they were sleeping, stole money from my mom's purse..... and this all after his own parents kicked him out, and my parents allowed him to move into our place. During this time, I was not dating him, but we were sleeping together. I have no idea why. Perhaps it was more about having someone there, not ready to move on yet.
I think what really broke the camels back, and allowed me to move on from the two years off an on I "allowed" him to use me, was the night he stole my mom's bank card. Sometimes I would sneak out of the house with him to ensure that he would bring the vehicle back..after all, if I was in it, he would have to right? We arrived at a bank machine, and he came to the truck and asked me for my mom's pin number. I told him I didn't know it and asked him why. (I know the pin number, but would not tell him of course!) he said that his bank pin was the same as hers, and that he could not remember his pin number. After waiting 5 min I went into the bank machine room and when he removed the card, I KNEW it was my mom's. For the rest of the night as he spent some of my mom's money (He drove back home and got the pin number as he wrote it down) kept offering to buy me things, and I kept refusing. He kept saying "its not your mom's money, its not your mom's money" and I just kept saying "whatever' knowing full well it was. Later that night, he said he took too much out, and was putting it back in. I felt better, knowing that she had only lost 20.00 and NOT the whole 200.00 he took out in the first place. Little did I know, he actually withdrew 200.00 MORE.
The next morning, my mom tried to withdraw money from her account and couldn't they said she exceeded the amount she was allowed to take. This is when I told her what happened, and what he had done. She confronted him and he LIED! She basically told him, that if she had to she would get the bank to give her pictures of who withdrew the money and press charges. He finally admitted to it and said he would pay it back. He never did, and this is when I "let him go". He moved to Alberta thankfully and even when he came back I did not bother with him. Running into him in the mall made me feel physically ill.
Okay, I am admitting I am not "perfect' when I was younger, or even now, but feel that this part of my life, although was "horrible" to think what I put myself through and my family, I can honestly say that I would not change what happened. Sounds bad eh? But in reality, I truly believe that everything happens for a reason. Had I not experienced that, I would be a different person today. I honestly believe that.
I learned to be strong, I learned that know one needs to be treated like crap and put up with it. I started to stand up for myself.
The more important lesson that started this all, was two more relationships down the road, both men cheated. I confronted they lied :(. It was after the third guy did it, that I clued into the last lesson. Did you know that if you dont learn your lesson the "first" time its presented, it repeats itself? Whether its with the same person, or another, its going to be repeated until you learn it. This lesson was that I did not have to put up with people cheating on me, again, about being walked on, treated like crap and "accepting it" all rolled into one. When I clued into this, the cycle stopped. I met my now husband and when we first started dating I told him right off the bat, if he EVER cheated on me, regardless of where we were in our relationship, it would be over. We are now together for 11 years and married for 6. I really believe that he is my match.
So to make a very long storey shorter, that things truly do happen for a reason, although it seems crappy and never ending, look for the common factor here and see if you can locate a "lesson" you might have missed. Because when you learn it, and "pass the test" you dont have to take that class anymore:)
Hopefully this post in this blog shows that everyone is "human" and we make mistakes, its the people who learn from their mistakes that advance and not have to repeat it...
As always, if you have any questions about this post, please leave it in the comments section, whether its your own experience, or help finding the lesson in your own situation I will reply to you:)
This storey does not have to be about trying to conceive, but can be about anything in your life, where you realized your lesson you needed to learn and where triumphant in achieving something.. anything that made you feel good.
As always I am willing to trade a prediction bypass (7.00) for any inspirational storey that is published on my blog.
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Here is one of my own.
I know that I am not the only one who went through this, but perhaps this will put things into better perspective for people either currently in this situation, or who have just left it, yet have not learned their lesson or dealt with it yet.
I started dating when I was 15 years old. The man I started dating was named Jay. He was 17 years old, really tall, and in my opinion good looking. He was also charming. This should have given me warning signs, but like everyone else, sometimes your heart leads the way. I remember being told by my best friend, that she found through a friend, that he was holding hands with a girl in school. When I confronted him, he denied it, saying that he was not sure what they were talking about.
I later was told he was sleeping with another girl. Yep you guessed it. Jay was my "first". (thats another long storey!) So I was pretty hurt, and again confronted him about it. He of course denied it again, and even told me to go and ask her myself if he was any good. I kid you know, the very next day during highschool she came up to me all smiling and happy. I said " Jay told me to ask you, he wants to know if he is any good?" The look on her face was enough to confirm it for me, she was in complete shock, had nothing to say, picked up her jaw off the floor and walked away. I knew then, what I guess I had known all along. For some reason I was not able to move on at this point. Jay did alot of things to my family, "borrowed" my parents car when they were sleeping, stole money from my mom's purse..... and this all after his own parents kicked him out, and my parents allowed him to move into our place. During this time, I was not dating him, but we were sleeping together. I have no idea why. Perhaps it was more about having someone there, not ready to move on yet.
I think what really broke the camels back, and allowed me to move on from the two years off an on I "allowed" him to use me, was the night he stole my mom's bank card. Sometimes I would sneak out of the house with him to ensure that he would bring the vehicle back..after all, if I was in it, he would have to right? We arrived at a bank machine, and he came to the truck and asked me for my mom's pin number. I told him I didn't know it and asked him why. (I know the pin number, but would not tell him of course!) he said that his bank pin was the same as hers, and that he could not remember his pin number. After waiting 5 min I went into the bank machine room and when he removed the card, I KNEW it was my mom's. For the rest of the night as he spent some of my mom's money (He drove back home and got the pin number as he wrote it down) kept offering to buy me things, and I kept refusing. He kept saying "its not your mom's money, its not your mom's money" and I just kept saying "whatever' knowing full well it was. Later that night, he said he took too much out, and was putting it back in. I felt better, knowing that she had only lost 20.00 and NOT the whole 200.00 he took out in the first place. Little did I know, he actually withdrew 200.00 MORE.
The next morning, my mom tried to withdraw money from her account and couldn't they said she exceeded the amount she was allowed to take. This is when I told her what happened, and what he had done. She confronted him and he LIED! She basically told him, that if she had to she would get the bank to give her pictures of who withdrew the money and press charges. He finally admitted to it and said he would pay it back. He never did, and this is when I "let him go". He moved to Alberta thankfully and even when he came back I did not bother with him. Running into him in the mall made me feel physically ill.
Okay, I am admitting I am not "perfect' when I was younger, or even now, but feel that this part of my life, although was "horrible" to think what I put myself through and my family, I can honestly say that I would not change what happened. Sounds bad eh? But in reality, I truly believe that everything happens for a reason. Had I not experienced that, I would be a different person today. I honestly believe that.
I learned to be strong, I learned that know one needs to be treated like crap and put up with it. I started to stand up for myself.
The more important lesson that started this all, was two more relationships down the road, both men cheated. I confronted they lied :(. It was after the third guy did it, that I clued into the last lesson. Did you know that if you dont learn your lesson the "first" time its presented, it repeats itself? Whether its with the same person, or another, its going to be repeated until you learn it. This lesson was that I did not have to put up with people cheating on me, again, about being walked on, treated like crap and "accepting it" all rolled into one. When I clued into this, the cycle stopped. I met my now husband and when we first started dating I told him right off the bat, if he EVER cheated on me, regardless of where we were in our relationship, it would be over. We are now together for 11 years and married for 6. I really believe that he is my match.
So to make a very long storey shorter, that things truly do happen for a reason, although it seems crappy and never ending, look for the common factor here and see if you can locate a "lesson" you might have missed. Because when you learn it, and "pass the test" you dont have to take that class anymore:)
Hopefully this post in this blog shows that everyone is "human" and we make mistakes, its the people who learn from their mistakes that advance and not have to repeat it...
As always, if you have any questions about this post, please leave it in the comments section, whether its your own experience, or help finding the lesson in your own situation I will reply to you:)
Tuesday, December 4, 2007
Open Blog Night!
Okay, so I am going to try and do this every Tuesday, where its "open blog night" where you the reader gets to pick what is discussed for the following tuesday by posting in the comments section below. I remember for the last one, that people posted about wanting to know more about Auras, so that is what today will be about. Opening your awareness to ones aura. Not only yours, but the people around you.
When I first started reading about aura's I must have been around 16-17years old. I really expected to be able to just look at someone and see color, and be able to attribute it to a current mood they were in. I guess like using a mood ring, only I didn't actually have to press anything to their skin.
Well, unless you have opened yourself up to this, and started from the basics, its not likely to be able to just one day look at someone and decide to see color. In my experience it does not work like that. So lets start with how it works in regards to me.
I know that at first, when starting to open yourself up to see the auras around people, you need to be able to use your "third eye". So although your two eyes you have wont see the color, your third eye will. By looking at someone, what is the first color you "feel". The first color usually is the one that is closest to the persons body. I find that its maybe an inch away from their body and basically surrounds them like a cocoon. I dont obviously see it go around their feet underneath, but every where else. Most people do not just use one color, usually there are 2-3 and sometimes more depending on a current situation, and sometimes its stronger. I usually just focus on the first 2 to 3 as this closely relates to what the person is feeling most.
I found an important text from a site that I think fits in perfectly with explaining why auras can be important to train yourself to see.
(please note, all text in green has been copied/pasted from http://thiaoouba.com/see_aura_color.htm" if you want to read more. I copied/pasted what was relevant to what I am talking about)
"Why do we need to see auras ?Colors and intensity of the aura, especially around and above the head have VERY special meanings. Watching someone's aura you can actually see the other person's thoughts before you hear them expressed verbally. If they do not agree with what this person is saying, you effectively see a lie every time. No one can lie in front of you undetected. We cannot fake the Aura. It shows our True Nature and intentions for everyone to see.Also, aura is our spiritual signature. When you see a person with a bright, clean aura, you can be SURE that such person is good and spiritually advanced, even if he/she is modest and not aware of it. When you see a person with a gray or dark aura, you may be almost SURE, that such person has unclear intentions, regardless how impressive, eloquent, educated, "good looking" or "well dressed" he/she seems to appear."
Also, found "directions" posted to increase your ability that give it step by step instructions to make it easier:)
"Seeing the Aura. This exercise is designed to see Aura for the first time and/or practice seeing Auras. Choosing good conditions is important: not only you see the Aura better, but also to gain a confidence about what you see.
Situate the person in front of a very softly illuminated PLAIN WHITE background. A color background will change Aura colors, so you need additional knowledge about combining colors. Some combinations of background and Aura colors may cause misinterpretation problems.
Choose ONE SPOT to look at. The middle of the forehead is VERY GOOD. This is a location of so called Brow Chakra or the Third Eye. In some cultures (India) they put a mark on a forehead. Such a mark in ancient times could mean the invitation to look and see the Aura.
Look at this spot for 30 to 60 seconds or longer
After 30 seconds analyze surroundings with your peripheral vision, while still looking at the same spot. Continuing the concentration is most important. Resist temptation to look around. You should see that the background nearby the person is brighter and has a DIFFERENT color than the background further away. This is your own perception of the Aura. The longer you concentrate, the better you will see it. Remember, concentration on one spot increases your sensitivity by accumulating the effect of the Aura vibration reaching your eyes. Taking a SNAPSHOT of an Aura.After concentrating long enough to see the aura, close your eyes. For a second or two you will see the Aura ONLY. Be prepared. You have only one second or two until your photosensitive cells will stop vibrating and sending visual sensations to the brain. And if you miss is, you have to start concentrating again. Try to experiment how fast or slow you should close your eyes.
Observing auras of other people. The best is to look directly at someone's brow chakra (third eye or wisdom eye, which is located @1.5 cm above the nose, between eyes) and aim to achieve the state of mind similar to the concentration technique described above for at least 30-60 seconds. I have tried also looking at throat and heart chakras with similar results. However, if you concentrate on someone's chest it looks so unusual that the person concerned is usually very uneasy about it. When you look into someone's brow chakra you can actually continue conversation.Again, VERY softly illuminated background, with no shadows is best. With practice, any uniformly illuminated background (such as a blue sky for example) will suffice.How to see your own AuraStand about 1.5 m in front of a good size mirror. In the beginning it is best if the background behind you is plain white and there are no shadows. Illumination should be VERY soft and uniform not bright. Follow instructions above for seeing Auras.PRACTICE for at least 10-15 minutes each day to increase your sensitivity and develop Auric sight. Remember that practice is required to develop Auric sight."
If you have any questions about this post, please put in comments section. If you have another topic you would love to learn about post in comments section as well and it might be next Tuesdays post!
When I first started reading about aura's I must have been around 16-17years old. I really expected to be able to just look at someone and see color, and be able to attribute it to a current mood they were in. I guess like using a mood ring, only I didn't actually have to press anything to their skin.
Well, unless you have opened yourself up to this, and started from the basics, its not likely to be able to just one day look at someone and decide to see color. In my experience it does not work like that. So lets start with how it works in regards to me.
I know that at first, when starting to open yourself up to see the auras around people, you need to be able to use your "third eye". So although your two eyes you have wont see the color, your third eye will. By looking at someone, what is the first color you "feel". The first color usually is the one that is closest to the persons body. I find that its maybe an inch away from their body and basically surrounds them like a cocoon. I dont obviously see it go around their feet underneath, but every where else. Most people do not just use one color, usually there are 2-3 and sometimes more depending on a current situation, and sometimes its stronger. I usually just focus on the first 2 to 3 as this closely relates to what the person is feeling most.
I found an important text from a site that I think fits in perfectly with explaining why auras can be important to train yourself to see.
(please note, all text in green has been copied/pasted from http://thiaoouba.com/see_aura_color.htm" if you want to read more. I copied/pasted what was relevant to what I am talking about)
"Why do we need to see auras ?Colors and intensity of the aura, especially around and above the head have VERY special meanings. Watching someone's aura you can actually see the other person's thoughts before you hear them expressed verbally. If they do not agree with what this person is saying, you effectively see a lie every time. No one can lie in front of you undetected. We cannot fake the Aura. It shows our True Nature and intentions for everyone to see.Also, aura is our spiritual signature. When you see a person with a bright, clean aura, you can be SURE that such person is good and spiritually advanced, even if he/she is modest and not aware of it. When you see a person with a gray or dark aura, you may be almost SURE, that such person has unclear intentions, regardless how impressive, eloquent, educated, "good looking" or "well dressed" he/she seems to appear."
Also, found "directions" posted to increase your ability that give it step by step instructions to make it easier:)
"Seeing the Aura. This exercise is designed to see Aura for the first time and/or practice seeing Auras. Choosing good conditions is important: not only you see the Aura better, but also to gain a confidence about what you see.
Situate the person in front of a very softly illuminated PLAIN WHITE background. A color background will change Aura colors, so you need additional knowledge about combining colors. Some combinations of background and Aura colors may cause misinterpretation problems.
Choose ONE SPOT to look at. The middle of the forehead is VERY GOOD. This is a location of so called Brow Chakra or the Third Eye. In some cultures (India) they put a mark on a forehead. Such a mark in ancient times could mean the invitation to look and see the Aura.
Look at this spot for 30 to 60 seconds or longer
After 30 seconds analyze surroundings with your peripheral vision, while still looking at the same spot. Continuing the concentration is most important. Resist temptation to look around. You should see that the background nearby the person is brighter and has a DIFFERENT color than the background further away. This is your own perception of the Aura. The longer you concentrate, the better you will see it. Remember, concentration on one spot increases your sensitivity by accumulating the effect of the Aura vibration reaching your eyes. Taking a SNAPSHOT of an Aura.After concentrating long enough to see the aura, close your eyes. For a second or two you will see the Aura ONLY. Be prepared. You have only one second or two until your photosensitive cells will stop vibrating and sending visual sensations to the brain. And if you miss is, you have to start concentrating again. Try to experiment how fast or slow you should close your eyes.
Observing auras of other people. The best is to look directly at someone's brow chakra (third eye or wisdom eye, which is located @1.5 cm above the nose, between eyes) and aim to achieve the state of mind similar to the concentration technique described above for at least 30-60 seconds. I have tried also looking at throat and heart chakras with similar results. However, if you concentrate on someone's chest it looks so unusual that the person concerned is usually very uneasy about it. When you look into someone's brow chakra you can actually continue conversation.Again, VERY softly illuminated background, with no shadows is best. With practice, any uniformly illuminated background (such as a blue sky for example) will suffice.How to see your own AuraStand about 1.5 m in front of a good size mirror. In the beginning it is best if the background behind you is plain white and there are no shadows. Illumination should be VERY soft and uniform not bright. Follow instructions above for seeing Auras.PRACTICE for at least 10-15 minutes each day to increase your sensitivity and develop Auric sight. Remember that practice is required to develop Auric sight."
If you have any questions about this post, please put in comments section. If you have another topic you would love to learn about post in comments section as well and it might be next Tuesdays post!
Sunday, December 2, 2007
Now that was SCARY!
Last night, myself, my husband and my daughter all headed to my dad's side of the family christmas reunion. We really don't get to see this side of the family very often and usually works out to once every few years unless a special event comes into play. So even with the snow warning in affect, and the 1.5-2 hour drive ahead of us, we set out. Before we left I asked my husband if we should go, as the television says that there was a chance of up to 15cm ( from what I was told every 3cm is an inch) and because they said it would happen "overnight" we headed out.
we got there, it was snowing about halfway out there, but not bad, my husband was driving so it certainly was easier! We made it to the party no problem! Had a good time, visited with everyone I haven't seen in what seemed like ages.
Anyways, we left at 9:30pm and headed out for home (normally we would not have left until much later!) And I was driving as my husband had a few beers. (he was sober, but I like to drive when hes had anything to drink)
We are about half way home and the snow is so bad that I can barely see the road! I was probably going only like 40km on a road I otherwise do 120km on, and I could barely see! I sometimes get vertigo like symptoms, especially at night while driving and if its snowing or raining. I have good peripheral vision so I tend to see other things as well other than just on the road. So not only could I see the snow coming straight at us, the wind blowing the snow on the road the opposite direction and the lights coming from the opposite direction of traffic going the other way. This is not a good combination when all you are trying to do is see the road, which was pretty much white at this point!
Did I mention I also get car sick? This was not helping! I actually started crying because I was so scared that I might drive us off the road. There was only 20 minutes left before getting home, and we had already been driving for 1.5 hours and I just couldn't see anymore!! I literally had to pull over and let my husband drive the rest of the way home so we could actually get there. Had it just been me and my daughter in the car, I would have pulled to the side of the road and waited till it was not snowing so bad anymore!!!
So needless to say I will NEVER do that again! (drive in snow conditions where you can barely see in front of you)
its still snowing here, my daughter is excited as my husband has promised to take her outside to build a snowman, and then we also plan on putting up our christmas tree! Should be fun today!
we got there, it was snowing about halfway out there, but not bad, my husband was driving so it certainly was easier! We made it to the party no problem! Had a good time, visited with everyone I haven't seen in what seemed like ages.
Anyways, we left at 9:30pm and headed out for home (normally we would not have left until much later!) And I was driving as my husband had a few beers. (he was sober, but I like to drive when hes had anything to drink)
We are about half way home and the snow is so bad that I can barely see the road! I was probably going only like 40km on a road I otherwise do 120km on, and I could barely see! I sometimes get vertigo like symptoms, especially at night while driving and if its snowing or raining. I have good peripheral vision so I tend to see other things as well other than just on the road. So not only could I see the snow coming straight at us, the wind blowing the snow on the road the opposite direction and the lights coming from the opposite direction of traffic going the other way. This is not a good combination when all you are trying to do is see the road, which was pretty much white at this point!
Did I mention I also get car sick? This was not helping! I actually started crying because I was so scared that I might drive us off the road. There was only 20 minutes left before getting home, and we had already been driving for 1.5 hours and I just couldn't see anymore!! I literally had to pull over and let my husband drive the rest of the way home so we could actually get there. Had it just been me and my daughter in the car, I would have pulled to the side of the road and waited till it was not snowing so bad anymore!!!
So needless to say I will NEVER do that again! (drive in snow conditions where you can barely see in front of you)
its still snowing here, my daughter is excited as my husband has promised to take her outside to build a snowman, and then we also plan on putting up our christmas tree! Should be fun today!
Saturday, December 1, 2007
A little about me and what I do...
I believe that this has been mentioned previously, in posts from MONTHS ago, but figured I would post it today for the people who have not read it, or want to bother scrolling down and trying to find it.
As most of you know, I am a 31 year old, been married for 6 years and together for 11, we have a 4.5 year old daughter and baby number 2 on the way. As of todays post I am about 15weeks and 5 days along. I plan on finding out the gender at the u/s that I get in December or January. Out here (British Columbia, Canada) you usually only get the one u/s at 18-20weeks and due to some cultural beliefs, they will no longer tell you gender at the u/s. Some will write it in your chart for you to find out from your Dr the gender, there are a few select clinics out here who will tell, but you really have to call to find out which ones they are. From what I am told, the closest one tht will tell, is about an hour from where I live.
I do work in an office a few days a week, and work from home the other ones. I try to fit in a few answers while I am at work if not too busy, otherwise its done on the days that I work from home, or when I put my daughter to bed (around 8:30pm Pacific time) I try not to be online before that, as I believe its also important to give her my time and attention. Right now she loves to play barbies, so seems to be what I am doing before its bath time and bed time! lol
The days that I work from home, I try to devote at least a few hours during the day to completing predictions, and then again at night when my daughter is in bed. On weekends, I sneak in an hour or two while shes watching her cartoons, and then we set out for the day. Every night when shes in bed, you will find me in front of my computer from 8:30pm to 11pm when I know its time to hit the sack.
I can't read myself, I do get what I call "premonitions" where I see something happening before it happens, usually a few minutes warning. I am still working on this portion of my gift, but other than that, I am going through like just like everyone else, not having all the answers and rely on the help of other psychics like Brooke777 (website located at the bottom right) to help clear things up that I am not able to see for myself.
When reading other people, I do not use tarrot cards to completely my reading. Its all done through intuition, and channeling to bring forth information. I type out exactly how i see it, any information that they give, is passed on to the person the reading is for. So whether its about a child to come or already here, or whether its a connection with a loved one who has passed, they show me images, pictures, personalities...etc. Its almost like describing to the person, someone I have already met, memories of that person..... this is especially how it works when its someone who has passed over.
There have been times when doing readings for someone with a connection of a loved one, that I started crying when their loved one recognized that it was them. This was not me crying, as I am not attached to the situation, but the emotion coming from the loved one who has passed over, pouring through me.
I remember doing a reading for someone over a year now, connecting them with their grandfather. I could not complete the reading as my daughter really wanted me to take her to the park. The entire time I was there, he kept telling me stories, sending me images of his grand daughter, connection information and was persistant that I tell her. This happened for the entire 45 minutes we were at the park, and the only time that he would stop is when I passed her the information. Othertimes I have been doing a reading for a child who is to come, and a loved one "hi-jacked' their reading, to tell them how much they were missed.
Now I also have to say, that when out and about with my "normal' day to day activities, I dont just "read" people passing on the street. I find that to be more of an invasion of privacy. So unless someone asks to be read, I dont try and tune in.
I really feel that I am meant to help people, whether its through my psychic gifts or in other ways.
In regards to my emails, I try to keep on top of them, answer as many as I can. I seem to be able to complete at least 8-15 indepth predictions a day/night, 15 seems to be my max before I start to feel "burnt out" and drained. (this does not include the number of emails I answer for quick questions, or comments) I really try to have no delay in regards to answering emails but this really depends on the amount of time I have to spend, as well as how many emails come in during the day.
I am trying to get my mothers husband to adjust my payment site, so that its more specific if there is to be a delay expected, as well as letting everyone know what happens with gmail in regards to emails! when replying to the email, it automatically links the emails together and moves it closer to the top. As I work from the bottom up in the hopes of answering the "older' emails sometimes I do not realize this has happened. So, with that being said, if your looking for an update as to where your prediction is in line, send a seperate email with UPDATE REQUESTED in the subject line and I should be able to locate your prediction and tell you when it will be done.
as always, if you have any questions about what I do, or how something works, I am more than willing to answer. You can either email cheri22@gmail.com with QUESTIONS in the subject line, or even post them in the comment section here.
As most of you know, I am a 31 year old, been married for 6 years and together for 11, we have a 4.5 year old daughter and baby number 2 on the way. As of todays post I am about 15weeks and 5 days along. I plan on finding out the gender at the u/s that I get in December or January. Out here (British Columbia, Canada) you usually only get the one u/s at 18-20weeks and due to some cultural beliefs, they will no longer tell you gender at the u/s. Some will write it in your chart for you to find out from your Dr the gender, there are a few select clinics out here who will tell, but you really have to call to find out which ones they are. From what I am told, the closest one tht will tell, is about an hour from where I live.
I do work in an office a few days a week, and work from home the other ones. I try to fit in a few answers while I am at work if not too busy, otherwise its done on the days that I work from home, or when I put my daughter to bed (around 8:30pm Pacific time) I try not to be online before that, as I believe its also important to give her my time and attention. Right now she loves to play barbies, so seems to be what I am doing before its bath time and bed time! lol
The days that I work from home, I try to devote at least a few hours during the day to completing predictions, and then again at night when my daughter is in bed. On weekends, I sneak in an hour or two while shes watching her cartoons, and then we set out for the day. Every night when shes in bed, you will find me in front of my computer from 8:30pm to 11pm when I know its time to hit the sack.
I can't read myself, I do get what I call "premonitions" where I see something happening before it happens, usually a few minutes warning. I am still working on this portion of my gift, but other than that, I am going through like just like everyone else, not having all the answers and rely on the help of other psychics like Brooke777 (website located at the bottom right) to help clear things up that I am not able to see for myself.
When reading other people, I do not use tarrot cards to completely my reading. Its all done through intuition, and channeling to bring forth information. I type out exactly how i see it, any information that they give, is passed on to the person the reading is for. So whether its about a child to come or already here, or whether its a connection with a loved one who has passed, they show me images, pictures, personalities...etc. Its almost like describing to the person, someone I have already met, memories of that person..... this is especially how it works when its someone who has passed over.
There have been times when doing readings for someone with a connection of a loved one, that I started crying when their loved one recognized that it was them. This was not me crying, as I am not attached to the situation, but the emotion coming from the loved one who has passed over, pouring through me.
I remember doing a reading for someone over a year now, connecting them with their grandfather. I could not complete the reading as my daughter really wanted me to take her to the park. The entire time I was there, he kept telling me stories, sending me images of his grand daughter, connection information and was persistant that I tell her. This happened for the entire 45 minutes we were at the park, and the only time that he would stop is when I passed her the information. Othertimes I have been doing a reading for a child who is to come, and a loved one "hi-jacked' their reading, to tell them how much they were missed.
Now I also have to say, that when out and about with my "normal' day to day activities, I dont just "read" people passing on the street. I find that to be more of an invasion of privacy. So unless someone asks to be read, I dont try and tune in.
I really feel that I am meant to help people, whether its through my psychic gifts or in other ways.
In regards to my emails, I try to keep on top of them, answer as many as I can. I seem to be able to complete at least 8-15 indepth predictions a day/night, 15 seems to be my max before I start to feel "burnt out" and drained. (this does not include the number of emails I answer for quick questions, or comments) I really try to have no delay in regards to answering emails but this really depends on the amount of time I have to spend, as well as how many emails come in during the day.
I am trying to get my mothers husband to adjust my payment site, so that its more specific if there is to be a delay expected, as well as letting everyone know what happens with gmail in regards to emails! when replying to the email, it automatically links the emails together and moves it closer to the top. As I work from the bottom up in the hopes of answering the "older' emails sometimes I do not realize this has happened. So, with that being said, if your looking for an update as to where your prediction is in line, send a seperate email with UPDATE REQUESTED in the subject line and I should be able to locate your prediction and tell you when it will be done.
as always, if you have any questions about what I do, or how something works, I am more than willing to answer. You can either email cheri22@gmail.com with QUESTIONS in the subject line, or even post them in the comment section here.