do you have un-invited "guests"?

this may sound a bit "weird" but when I mean un-invited guests, this can be either loved ones who have passed over, or other spirits that seem to be able to pick up your energy and just want to come by and check you out and say hi. I know that for me, when I am "searching" for someone specifically for a connection of a loved one who has passed over for a client, I am certainly accepting of the visit for this purpose. But other times I am not sure I like surprise visits!

Now I do have to say that most of the visits that happen "un-invited" will usually occur between the hours of 3-4am. I have no idea why, just seems that this is the "norm" for them as there is really no concept of time at "home" and this seems to be a time when they are less noticed, and feel that they are less disruptive.

Sometimes though, they do come during the day, popping in to say hello. At times moving things ever so slightly, allowing you to either see this, or even feel a breeze. All things that are not done intentionally to scare you, but just to make you aware. Now I know for me, when not expecting "company" things like this do freak me out for a moment, and cause my heart to skip a beat, and would really prefer that they dont do this!

Other times I have experienced spirits not connected to myself that I tend to pick up their thoughts and its definitely not something that I would think for myself. Sometimes they can be mean! Its times like this that I ask them to leave.

So lets start here. Lets say you have an un-invited guest, and your feeling uncomfortable with their appearance. Whether you see them, feel them, or have been given a sign that they are there. The first thing I do is envision a light starting from my toes and going up over my whole body wrapping myself in a light of cocoon. I say "only goodness may enter me, and only goodness may leave me". This tends to help shut out any negative thinking that the spirit might be doing in case its not a loved one who visits. I then ask that the person please leave. I only have to say this a min of three times and they will go. I have been known, when feeling uneasy to surround my house in the light starting from under the foundation and going over the roof (again in my minds eye, and allow whatever color to come forth) and I have done this cocoon of light and put it over my husband and my daughter at times as well. It tends to make me feel more at ease in the situation and more in control..

To know its a loved one rather than just a wandering spirit, usually a loved one will "provoke" a memory of themselves. Usually have you start thinking about them, a memory you have of them...and will usually happen out of the blue. You can be doing laundry one minute, thinking about stains, and next thing you know, your remembering something your grandmother who passed once told you, or something funny that happened with her.

Although you may not see her, or realize that she was there, your spirit knows, your spirit guide knows, and tries to show you this connection through that way.

If you have any questions of this topic, again, feel free to post in the comments section or even email me cheri22@gmail.com and write "blog post" in the subject line to locate it easier

Low Sperm Count?

I have had a few people recently, who have mentioned that their husbands (or partners) have been diagnosed with a low sperm count. I think that this is probably one of the "easier" obstacles to overcome when it comes to being diagnosed with infertility issues. My friend Jeni who does "Ask Jeni" was asked this question through email from one of my clients, and the information that Jeni was able to provide I thought might be beneficial to alot of the other readers who read the blog who might have been uncomfortable to ask the question themselves.

I have copied/pasted what was in the email here for everyone to read, its been edited to not include any particulars about who the original email was for. If there are any questions about this post, or need clarification or further questions, please respond in the comments section or even email me cheri22@gmail.com with "ask jeni" in the subject line. Everything will be forwarded to her:)

I am sorry it took a few days to get back to you, but this topic is quite a "questionable" topic as to what really works and what does not. As far as increasing your husband's sperm count, there are a few things he can do to increase the count slightly.

A big one on the boards when i was trying to get pregnant was to avoid overheating his testicles. Basically, stay away from Hot tubs, saunas and hot baths. Shower only.

Below is a few things i got from an ezine article on increasing sperm count: .
Have sex & masturbate less often - the more times you ejaculate, the less dense your semen will be. Maintain a gap of 3 days between two consecutive ejaculations.
2. Refrain from habits like smoking, alcohol consumption etc. - Alcohol affects your liver function, which, in turn, causes a dramatic rise in estrogen levels. Even two drinks a day will have long-term effects on sperm production
3. Exercise regularly.Exercising your PC muscle can help you shoot further than ever before.
4. Eat Nutritious Food - Diet that's low in fat, and high in protein, vegetables, and whole grains is good for your health and for your sperm. Avoid bitter, astringent and spicy foods.Reduce caffeine intake
5. Avoid heating of testicles - Wear loose, cotton boxer shorts, Avoid hot baths and saunas
6. Lose any excess weight, which tends to cause testosterone/oestrogen imbalances.
7. Reduce stress levels by learning relaxation techniques - Keep your mind and body healthy by regular practice of YOGA and MEDITATION.8. Massage body with herbal oil, which improves blood circulation.

Here is also an article from Mayo CLinic that ha a few helpful hints: http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/fertility/MC00023

As far as the lubricant part, yes it is true. Lubricants do have a tendency when used to decrease motility of sperm---except for ONE!! : ) There is a lubricant on www.early-pregnancy-tests.com called PRESEED. It is the only known sperm friendly lubricant out there that actually HELPS sperm along and does not harm them.

On there are also Ovulation test dipsticks cheap that I swear by! Also, to make it easier for sperm to swim to your tubes to reach an egg, you can take Mucinex (plain, only active ingredient can be guaifenesin) to loosen your mucus and make it more hospitable to sperm around ovulation. What i used was the Equate mucus relief from wal-mart. It is a LOT cheaper!

As far as herbal supplements, there are so many out there that claim to increase sperm count and motility, that you really have to choose carefully. A lot of things out there these days are not true. SO as far as that i am going to stick to what Cheri said and leave it at that. (False Unicorn & Horny Goat Weed)

If you take and mix too many herbal/vitamin supplements without the advice of a physician, you run the risk of making yourself sick. As far as diet, I will post a few links for you to check out. Here they are below! http://www.amazingpregnancy.com/pregnancy-articles/503.html http://infertility.health-info.org/male-infertility/male-infertility-improve-sperm-quality.html http://www.urologychannel.com/maleinfertility/treatment_alternative.shtml

Also, see "proxeed" in the end of this article link. You can google it and get info on this supplement, as it is shown to contain things your body NEEDS I think this one may be worth trying. Also, for your husband see if he would try and consider Accupuncture or reflexology for fertility. Some men and women have actually said they have these "alternative methods" to thank as well.

Remember: It takes ONE sperm to fertilize and egg. If you are very serious about conceiving, I would also consider IUI (insemination) with your husband's sperm so they have less distance to travel.

Good Luck to you!! I hope things work out for the best!
~*~*~BABYDUST~*~*~
Jeni

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Its time to ASK JENI!

as most of you know from previous blog posts, my friend Jeni is extremely wise when it comes to fertility. She knows the ins, the outs and can pretty much help you find the answers that you seek. Could be a problem that your already experiencing, symptoms that your not sure of, or just a question related to cervical mucous or even position, if its about trying to conceive, chances are she can either answer your question or point you in the right direction!

Shes not a fertility expert in the form of many years of schooling, but in her own trying to conceive adventure has come across ALOT of information and knows what shes talking about.

So I am offering those of you with questions, to either ask them in the comments section below (you can post as anon if you like! lol) or perhaps you would feel more comfortable with emailing? You can send any question to cheri22@gmail.com and the email will be forwarded directly to Jeni.

Hoping you all have a wonderful weekend!

A watched pot never boils....

I am sure that alot of people have got to have heard of this saying before and I can say it is true in so many forms. I think that you will find that when your more focused on trying to conceive, you end up putting pressure on yourself and stressing out your body> At times this causes you to fluctuate when you ovulate and can end up with you missing the mark.

I think that this goes without saying that spending the time to temp for signs of ovulation although good, and paying attention to your cycle is good..etc. its just how hard your focused on it that might be the problem. Let it be part of your routine, but dont let yourself become obsessive over it.

With that being said, another positive thinking trick to use for calming your mind and body down goes like this.

Sit on the couch or your bed, or somewhere that you wont be easily distracted. Palms facing up and eyes closed. In your mind, tell yourself that your feeling relaxed about trying to conceive. That your no longer going to feel the stress in your body or your mind when it comes to trying to concieve. That you will feel more at peace with conceiving your baby and knowing that the time will come when its meant to. That your feeling more positive about conceving your baby.

You can change these words to anything positive that you feel comfortable saying. I would actually say this three times in my mind before opening up my eyes. Then continuing with my day. You can do this however many times a day you feel like, once, twice, doesn't matter. Just note that you should feel more relaxed and positive and might notice a difference in the way you feel in regards to trying to concieve and have a more positive approach again.

This can work wtih anything in your life your feeling stressed or overwhelmed with. You just need to change the wording to be something positive and tell yourself that you do not need to stress or worry about something in particular, because you know that its going to work out as it should. Tell yourself you feel relaxed and happy about it, and that a positive solution will be found.

You will be amazed at the changes you can create within yourself by focusing more on feeling positive and relaxed.

Today is also the day to give away a reading with Brooke777. To make it easy today, all you have to do is reply in the comment section by saying "add me to the draw" lol How easy can it get! I will announce the winner tomorrow

An update on me, I am still sore on the left side where I pulled my muscle. It hurts to cough, sneeze, burp...etc. I try and stay sitting or relaxed and as of yesterday morning have not taken anything for the pain. Monday night and tuesday I was taking one tylenol 3 every six hours so that I could manage the pain, today its bearable.

I am currently online, I am about 5 people delayed from schedule which will be caught up today at the latest and be back on track! Thank you all for your well wishes and understanding with the slight delay in the schedule because of what happened on monday night.