The memories of Christmas

Something that is obviously going to be on my mind alot this year.. For those of you who have lost a loved one....what did you do for the first holiday or special event in your life where they were "missing" from?

For me, Christmas was ALWAYS my mom's most favorite time of year. She would wish like crazy that it would snow on christmas morning. She did not mind if it snowed any other day of the year, but Christmas was a "must". For those of you that know I live in British Columbia (Canada) I am on the lower mainland area, and we live near a "rain forest". Enough to be able to tell you that if you lived here, you would know that it rains here ALOT. So for us to get freezing temperatures or alot of snow is not very likely (although we do get some). So for it to actually snow on christmas day, is not always likely. In fact if I am not mistaken, there are a few department stores that if it does snow over a certain amount on christmas day, certain things are free! Thats how confident they are!

Well.... every year we would get together for dinner. I would call my mom in the morning (She would often be the first one awake, and extremely excited and waiting for us to call her when we woke up) We would talk about what we all got, she would talk to the kids, and then we would meet somewhere for christmas dinner (either my house or my sisters). This year.. thats not going to happen. I'm not going to open a present that is labeled from "tigger" (my mom's cat, as she insisted her cat did her own shopping and picked it out) Or the TONS of presents for the girls that I would insist she did not need to buy. My mom was like a little kid... this year.. I am going to miss that...

So... to make sure that I am having a good time with my family this christmas, and not being miserable and crying my eyes out... what are good ways of having a good time, yet still remembering my mom at this time of year....

I was also trying to find an ornament or something, that I can either engrave or perhaps store some of her ashes in? That way she would always be apart of christmas. Wasn't sure if anyone has come across something like that?

I would love to hear what you have done to make that special holiday more bearable...and well....happy!

My nick name should be "speedy"

Tomorrow I am going to be EXTREMELY busy and having to do things as fast as possible to ensure that I can get it all done in the time that I have. I have a dr's appt tomorrow morning at 8:45... wondering why? Well, with my cold, remember me saying that my right ear was all stuffed up and for a bit there I could not here? During my last dr's appt a week ago, I mentioned that my right ear at times sounded like I was listening under water. This has happened a few times off and on during the last year, so figured it was time to mention it. The Dr took a look in my ear and tried hard not to laugh. Then asked me if I used Q-tips. I kinda new what he meant then and said yes as I too tried not too laugh. Apparently I had pushed the wax up right against my ear drum which is why I was having trouble hearing! Too funny! So I have an apt tomorrow for him to flush my ear out. I have been using really hot water to shoot in my ear each day with my shower, but not sure if its helped. I guess I will find out.

I am also going to goto a bodyshop locally and have them take a look at my van. My husband took a look again at my van, turns out he was looking at a small spot at the back of my van (that I had NO CLUE was there) and when he looked at the front he figures it can be fixed, and not as bad as I had feared. He does NOT want the other women driving my van period, nor does he want me going to another city for it to be fixed (I have daycare, so its hard to travel the other kids back and forth, so nope). So will go around here and see what they say, if they figure its an easy fix, will submit her a quote so she can either pay it, or we go through insurance. I really do not want to keep it that way.

Then I need to run a BUNCH of errands, bank, a few others things that I am sure I am not going to get to but will try!

I actually really love Mondays. I really think that Monday is my most favorite day of the week. Most people seem to really love the weekend, but I like it when the week starts. Whats your favorite day?

What a crazy week this has been!

It has literally been a crazy week for me. This week has Rememberance day smack in the middle of the week. We were lucky that our school was closed Thursday & Friday, but I know most people still had to work. I still provided daycare today but it was nice not to have to rush back and forth to the school!

Wednesday one of the mom's at the school hit my van. Not a huge thing, but she scratched the bumper and headlight pretty bad. She is really hoping we can settle without the insurance company and now I am not so sure. Yes, the damage is not huge, but its an eye sore, and not there before she hit it. Well she now explained to me today that the person shes hoping that can fix my van is located about a 30 minute drive from me. Ummm.. NO.... I require my van for daycare purposes for one thing, and she was thinking that she would borrow my van, drive it into the city to be fixed and lend me her Mom's van.. Ummm... NO. First of all, she hit me.. What makes her think that I am going to let her drive my van? (I have heard from her daycare provider that she can't drive very well and is always running over things getting into her driveway!). Then I get the impression that this place she wants to take my van to be fixed, is NOT a business, but rather a person who seems to be able to repaint things? Umm.. NO. I want it professionally done. The bumper is also gouged out you cant just repaint over that. The headlight has to be replaced. You can't fix it. I told her I was okay going to an auto wrecker and getting another light as long as it does not look like crap. So, not really sure what to do here. I heard through the grapevine that shes not doing well financially, I understand that.... But then I am wondering if again my own life lesson is here at work.. where I seem to always be bending over backwards for people when its not really something I should be.. What do you guys think? What would you be doing?

Then today, at the mall, you can tell that everyone is getting grumpy as it gets closer to Christmas. The Christmas shoppers are all out there! I went to purdy's to get the smiley chocolates and the service was HORRIBLE. I waited awhile to even have the server acknowledge me, she was talking to an elderly gentleman who seemed to be asking endless questions, like he had never eaten a chocolate before. (She even gave him a free sample). Finally she walked towards me and asked me basically what I wanted. Not that it was said in a nice tone. I said I was wanting to get the smiley face chocolates and was almost going to leave. I didn't think that I had said it in a wrong tone, but she then commented on how busy it was, and that she was the only one there. I commented back " yeah we had waited for awhile and one guy left" I just made the comment, not realizing she would say "well patience is a virtue" in a snarky tone. I didn't think that was necessary. I have too been in customer service, and being polite is always the best policy even if your not happy or overwhelmed. I would have replied "I am so sorry you had to wait, how can I help you?".

Then the new walmart opened today. I took my two daughters and my one daycare girl. It was SWAMPED. Its a MEGA Walmart and we did not get to see everything either for the time that we were there, and the amount of people. They had alot of "stations" offering free samples. This one had chips I asked the two older girls if they wanted to try a sample, they said Yes. Then this other lady beside me in the aisle coming towards us asked her two kids. My eldest took hers, the lady grabbed one, then my daycare kid went to grab hers and the lady started to reach for it again. I was kinda shocked as the person doing the samples was having a hard time keeping up. She took her hand away and allowed my daycare girl to get it. Her friend then makes a comment about how her friend has good patience and would have blown up at me? Gosh what happened to taking turns?

Sorry for the vent. Sometimes things just kinda get you the wrong way and drive you crazy! I even had a client of mine, email me saying some mean/nasty things because shes not pregnant yet. I explained that she needed to wait until the month I provided her was over (Its only just begun) and to wait until its passed as EDD too before she emails me all mad. Its the 12th today. I provided her November as a connection. Sorry, I understand how frustrating the journey is for trying to conceive, I have been there I do truly understand....but the mean/rude emails are not necessary. They do hurt my feelings as I do help everyone and provide as much information as I can to help people be successful....but sometimes it takes time and patience, and its nothing I can do about that. I am always willing to do updates for people who have had both conceive month and EDD/Find out month pass by....all you have to do is ask:)

Venting is a good thing.. it helps to get things off your chest and release any emotions your holding on to because of the event... so heres your chance, comment in the section below about whats bugging you:)

People never cease to amaze me...

I posted the winners the other day for the contest. I waited for an email from the first place winner of the 50.00 paypal payment, giving me their information on where to send the money.. instead... I got this:)


Hey Cheri,

I hope you start to feel better. I cannot stand the thought of being sick so you have my sympathies.

I think its funny because for some reason in the back of my mind I just knew I was going to win this contest. Originally I entered the contest wanting to winning it for myself because like everybody else we all could think of different ways to spoil ourselves. But when I saw that Ty206 lost her mom earlier this month I thought if I did win I would want to try to pass it on to her if I was allowed to. Since I believe that because she lost her mom early October she could probably really use a day to spoil herself.

I mean if it is too much trouble for you or she does not want to accept it then I am fine with still accepting it.

Things like this, just excite me, and make me so happy. I know it makes me feel good to be able to do something nice for someone else, but I love to see the "pay it forward" happen! I am truely at a loss for words and so grateful to have you all for clients! I love meeting and talking with everyone and its always such a blessing... and then you have something like this happen, and its just the icing on the cake!

I just got a reply by from ty206 after being notified that shes the new winner


Hello Cheri,

YES I will definitly accept this gift! That is so generous of her! I will also share with with you how I spoiled myself :) I have created a paypal account let me know if there is anything else that I need to do.

Lately I think I have been feeling my moms presence. My sister was telling me that she woke up out of her sleep and could smell my mom on her hands. I have been searching on google for ways to help me connect with her and it has really helped me with dealing with things.

PS. Could you please tell Amanda I said thank you from the bottom of my heart. I am so excited to spoil myself after this long hard month!

Thanks again cheri for everything you do!
Ty206


So after she receives the payment and spoils herself, shes agreed to share what she did with everyone!

I wish I could say that was easy

I went back through ALL of Octobers posts, and located all the comments and tallied all of the entries. In total, 126 comments (thank you gals!) and out of those 126 comments, there were 40 people that were entered into the draw! I actually had my daughter come over and pick a name out of the entries. I wanted to be able to do it, but for two reasons could not. FIRST, I think that since I was the one doing the contest, it would not be "fair" to draw the name, and second, my guides were trying to tell me to award EVERYONE the prize! As thats not really something I can do, I decided to that the person who commented the most would win a different prize. Well, thought it was easy to do, only there are THREE women who have the same number of comments. So being the fair person I am, decided that those three women would all win the same "second place" prize.

Before I announce the winners and who won what, figured I would "rattle" about my own day.

I took my one daycare kid to kindergarten this afternoon and decided to do a bit of christmas shopping BY MYSELF! (my mother in law had my youngest). I get a call from my 7 year old saying shes sick. I can tell that shes not, but go and get her anyways from school. Explaining to her that this is a "once in a blue moon thing". I totally get being somewhere and just not really feeling up to it. I have on rare occasions been at my work (when I was not working from home) and decided to go home for the rest of the day.

When out and about and gathering my other items, finished my lunch I went into the book store. While in there I got this message from my guides "time to leave". As I had not finished my shopping and didn't realize I was in a rush, I got the impression that I was getting REALLY close to the "cutoff time" that I need to leave the mall by in order to make it back to the school in time to pick everyone up. I wondered what time it was, and got the impression that when I was done in the book store, it would be 2:05 - 2:07. I pay for the one book I have, head towards the doors and the clock above the doors reads 2:05. I thought that was pretty cool and headed to the vehicle. I leave the parking lot, and get into traffic and its now 2:07. I have been finding that the more I have been listening and paying attention to the little information they have been giving me, the more times I find that they are right. Its when you second guess what your hearing that your often going to run into trouble with your insight from your guides.

On another note, feeling so much better today! I still have a slight cough, and blowing my nose a little, but its SO MUCH better! I do apologize to the people who have had their reading delayed because of this nasty cold. I should be able to be all caught up by tomorrow night and back to my old cheerful Cheri self!

Okay, your probably thinking "enough already, get to the winners".. okay so here goes.

For the "Grand Prize" of the 50.00 paypal payment from me (in canadian funds) to be used to SPOIL YOURSELF and doing something nice is..... DRUM ROLL PLEASE.....

Oh, wait, did I tell you what my daughters were for halloween?

Just kidding

Congrats to AMANDA S. (Redreila89) You were the person that had their name picked by my eldest daughter!!! You need to contact me at Cheri22@gmail.com and write "BLOG CONTEST WINNER" in the subject line and I will contact you in order to get your email for the payment. Hopefully you can let me know how you spoiled yourself!

For the three women who won the second prize, you all win MOTHERLODE predictions from me. They are worth 50.00 on my site, and allow you access to email me anytime during the 30 days to get any question answerred you want. It includes a session of Reiki, and the archangel oracle reading.

The three winners are listed here, all with posting 11 times each!

ACRYSTALILLY
STACY
MELISSA

Please email cheri22@gmail.com and write in the subject line "BLOG CONTEST SECOND PRIZE" so I can schedule your reading for you.

Thank you EVERYONE for participating!