Life has its ways

of bringing people together. I know that most people at times feel "lonely". It seems that as we get older, our friendships change and we at times loose contact with the people we used to be around all of the time. Families get busy, and we soon find ourselves connected more to the online friends we have made, rather than the ones we have known in real life.

For me, this has happened in the last two years. ( earlier than that, but this is when I really took notice) I used to live in what was reffered to the "lower mainland", around all of my friends and family, the job that I loved (been there for 8.5 years) and everyone was within a 15-20 min drive MAX. Well my husband spent more time in the "Fraser Valley" and suggested we move. Its a smaller town, its about an hour away from everyone, and I was a bit nervous. I have never lived in a "small town" before. Always a large city. (I believe the lower mainland has about 3 million people) Anyways, I decided it was the time for the move and did it. Thinking I would regret it, but I have not.

I have been here one year, made friends with "quiltnut" whos blog is posted below and we go out stamping, and met quite a few people that I have really enjoyed getting to know. I have also known "quilt nut" online as well from one of the forums that I visit.

So sometimes change is good, sometimes its what we are afraid of most, seems to turn out well in the end.

By doing my predictions I have made quite a bit of friends, I really enjoy getting to know everyone, and love to hear updates. Friendships can come from anyone, anywhere at anytime, you just have to be open to recieving them and accepting them as they come in.

Here is an email that my online friend Candace wrote to me for me to post on my blog. She came to me for a prediction, and over the course of a year or so we have kept in contact and became friends..

Cheri has been a positive light in my life, and I have never met her in person. A couple years ago, I was on my Moms message board, and they posted a link for Cheri's predictions.... I had a rough pregnancy with my son, and the thought of going through it again scared me to no end. So for fun, I emailed Cheri. She told me, "the pregnancy with your daughter will not be as tough as the one you had with your son". Needless to say, I was blown away. I shared this info with my husband, who in turn emailed Cheri. They wrote back and forth and during that time, my father was missing. It was the most horrifying time in my life. My brother and I drove all hours of the night, looking in ditches and bad neighborhoods for him. My mother crying hysterically...my sister in law calling hospitals and everywhere, my teenage sister scared to death. It was horrible. My husband emailed Cheri and asked for her help. Cheri did not blow my husband off, rather, gave us peace of mind. She told us he was wandering, lost, but still alive, driving a gold car. My dad does not have a gold car, however, had a rental car that day...guess what color? Yup, gold. Cheri gave me hope when I was losing it. I kept my faith...but it was still hard. So many 'what ifs'.... so long story short, my father was found the next day, unconscious in his car. His medications interacted with each other causing them to build up. He was in the hospital for a few weeks. He dealt with depression afterwards, but Cheri assured me, he would be fine. She held my hand through all the darkness. She was a ray of light for me. Today, my father is better than ever. Happy, motivated and the best he has ever been. will forever be grateful to Cheri time and energy she spent with me. I feel very fortunate to know her. Today, we share experiences, one being positive energy. I read THE SECRET, and it literally changed my life. Such a simple concept. Seeing the positive in every single thing, even if it looks bad, can change so much. I stopped dieting for one! And guess what, I have lost weight...I stopped putting myself down, I take care of my health, and value myself. It is so easy to beat yourself up, but so rough on your soul. Feed your soul positivity, and watch yourself transform. It feels amazing... Read Cheri's blogs, soak it all in. She is a gift to all of us. Definitely one of my favorite people! Thank you Cheri!

Candace
www.candidacephoto.com


I guess the point of this blog tonight, is to be open to change, and to be open to friendships. That if your feeling lonely that you never have to look far, and that "life" has a way of directing you to new connections if your ready.

You have a friend in me

Did you know?

I am currently reading a book called "skinny bitch" (that is the true title). I had seen it on a talk show about a new no-nonesense way to loose weight. I think that this book is a bit one sided and presents the "facts" as to what supports their ideas, but came across something that I thought that alot of women might like to know if you didn't already that relates to ttc and pregnancy!

We all know that Folic Acid fights against birth defects and is one of the suppliments in materna, but did you know that Magnesium (known as the anti-stress mineral) helps prevent premature labor ? (along other things). To gain more magnesium, it says to eat nuts, seeds, sunflower seeds, green vegetables, soybeans (seaweed) and molasses.

And did you know that Zinc helps with infertility issues? I was shocked to read that, but it is listed here in the book, and says that foods high with concentrations of zinc are wheat germ, whole grains, pumpkin seeds, sesame seeds, and soybeans.

In most of the Vitamins listed in these few pages, it lists what you can eat to get more of the vitamin in more naturally, and under most of the listings is nuts/seeds of some kind.

I just thought that these particular ones are very interesting for ttc and pregnancy and thought I would pass this information out.


As usual I am a bit behind on my readings. I am working from home for the next two days and hoping to get a lot of the readings caught up. Again thank you for your patience.

I also wanted to point something out, a post below about the pansies, I was outside today in the front yard, and you will never guess what.. okay, maybe you will, but there are TONS more. I can't believe how many new pansy leaves are starting to form and its doing down the lava rocks towards the end of the driveway. I will be surprised if by the end of the summer my whole area there is covered! And its not just the purple ones anymore, its light purple, dark purple, yellow, purple and yellow and now some really big huge purple ones! I love it! Those little flowers make me so happy!

Swaying for a Girl or Boy?

I know that there are tons of ways that you can sway for a specific gender, and i think that this falls under my category of "tips/tricks for ttc". So I would love your feedback if you have heard of any old wives tales that you might know of that help sway for a girl or boy. I know alot of women wanting to even up their families so to speak and would love to have this information!

One women that i recently did a prediction for gave me this information to pass along to everyone!

Swaying for a BOY
We used softcups the last two cycles, you can buy them at Walgreens, CVS, etc. in the tampon aisle and you put them in right after you BD while you're laying there. They look like LiveStrong rubber bracelets for the rim with a sandwich baggie attatched to it, haha. You leave it in for 12 hours and after that's over, you take it out. It helps keep the sperm really close to the cervix with no leakage. I know several people who ovulate pretty normally have gotten pregnant right away with them. So, I'm pretty sure it'll be a boy because of the research I"ve done, most people who got pregnant with softcups had boys. Rarely do they produce a girl since the boy sperm are much faster. But, I guess we'll find out down the road. Here's the website for softcups, btw: www.softcups.com. :)


Another good website to check out that has alot of women posting about trying to sway for a specific gender is http://www.ttcspecificgender.com/board/forumdisplay.php?daysprune=&f=3 I am hoping that this link will work. It made me login to the forums but hopefully will bring you directly to the home page. if you have problems with this link, please let me know in the comments section and i will ask the moderator of the site for the proper link:)

Also, news on myself. I am thinking of ttc myself.. more like just letting what happens happen and not preventing. What I would like your help with, is how to make my husband be on the same page. We talked last night, he said that he is not against having a second, but is happy with just the one (originally we had both planned for two) he finds raising kids alot of "work" so to speak and the additional costs kinda scare him. He is not on board with this but not against it, and said that he would do it to make me happy. I want him to be happy about it, and dont want him to resent/regretme or the other child should we concieve. He assures me that it would not happen. So what do I do, how do I show him it will be okay? Any ideas on how to proceed?

Happy Things

I am sure that most of you know, that I am a "positive" person. Someone who tries to see the good in everything and every person. I choose to focus on what good can come out of something or someone and try to give people the benefit of the doubt. This at times has caused me to be taken advantage of by some people but I have learned to be stronger, but still carry the same positive hope.

I am one that does not like to hear bad news, in all of my predictions I have asked that "they" leave out the bad news, I want my predictions to be happy and positive and do not like to be the bearer of any bad news that they might have. I focus only on the positive and leave out anything bad at all.

Answering questions about "love" is always harder for me to predict, because if you ask if you and your partner will be together "forever" i can answer that, if you ask the question, the answer will come. And I always feel so badly if they tell me that the answer is no, that things will not last. I don't "like" to pass that kind of information on, but I do, you ask the question, be ready for the answer.

Perhaps my positive nature is not just to do with being psychic and wanting to help people, but also from my own life experiences. My mother, suffered from severe depression from the time I was little until I turned 21 years old. With depression, most times the seretonin levels in your brain cause you think of things in a more of a "woes is me" type attitude. Often sending my mom into a spiral being upset on things that "most" people would just pass off as a problem or a bit of stress. She would focus on things that not was happing in our family but everyone else as well. At times being commited to the psychiatric ward of a hospital on more than one occasion. Perhaps my fear of this being "genetic" for depression, I choose to share my feelings, my frustrations and my happiness and not bottle things inside. Which is why also perhaps that I choose to focus on things that are positive, and happy. The glass half full so to speak.

I came across this post on the todays parent website, that had an ebay acution of a women selling her kids pokemon cards due to them putting it in the buggy when she was not looking. Her writing is humorous and very light hearted and a real joy to read. I found myself smiling at what she was saying and nodding my head, knowing that my own daughter does things similar (She has 6 kids by the way!)

Here is the link to her ebay auction

http://cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?ViewItem&item=130144061675#description

Here is a link to her blog which I have also put in my links section. http://mom2my6pack.blogspot.com/

This post is none other than to remind you to be happy, positive person, and to focus more so on the positive and humor in life, you will feel better for it.

I would love for you to share your "happy moments' things that you do that make you happy, positive experiences or influences in your life. Post them in the comment section. Be happy!

Everything happens for a reason

I think that this is one of my most favorite quotes. I truely do believe that everything happens for a reason. Although we may not understand at the moment what that "reason" might be its often later in our life that it really becomes apparant on why we went through what we did and how it tied in later in life.

I think that there are alot of "coincedences" that come in our life, that people often just toss off as just that a "coincedence" rather than what it truely is. Its part of our path.

For example, ever since I was 16, I began telling my friends that I would marry a man I met in a bar. At the age of 20 years old, I met that man. We got along amazingly well, we had fun, and I just "knew" it would be him. We dated for 3 months, he ended up moving at the same time I had my cell phone disconnected. He lost his phone book during the move and we lost contact.. I was heart broken. I thought it was him, and it was hard for the next three months not knowing why he was not calling etc. I finally "gave up" so to speak and "moved on". Not really know what happened, but accepting it. Well three months later, I was to goto this comedy club with a friend and we always would see the early show and then head to the night club about a 10 min drive. This one night we were running late, and missed the early show so had to see the late show. When you buy tickets for this particular show, they let you into the night club next door for free. So we headed over to waste about 45 min playing pool while we waited for our show. As we were getting ready to leave, I looked to my right, sitting there with a bunch of my friends was my now husband. After reconnecting, it was just as it was before, he explained about losing his phonebook and my cellphone being off. We have been together now for 11 years and married for 6 of those years. I was not supposed to be there that night, it was by "chance" I was there, but I think that greater things were at work.

Same thing with what happened to me on Friday. I had booked a hair appt, as my current do was needing to be re-highlighted and cut/styled as I was feeling "old" Lol. I booked the appt for 1pm that day, arranged care for my 4 year old. Well that morning, my friend asked if she could drop off her two kids so she could possibly go and have her baby (had a planned c-section, but was having issues) anyways, due to delays with my friend and the dr's not knowing if they would or wouldn't do the c-section that day, I had to cancel my hair appt. I asked to change it, and she asked if it had to be the same person or did it matter. As I had not specified a person in the first place, I said it would not matter. My hair appt was changed to Saturday at 3pm.

During the hair appt, I am normally not a talker, not sure what to talk about and usually just answer questions or small talk. Well there was a connection with this girl. She was so sweet and nice, and very relaxed, and turns out she does alot of the same things as me, she knows Reiki, and has her own gifts shes aware of, and pursues alot of the same things. Recently getting into EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique I posted about below) and we just really connected. Found out that our husbands have similar interests.

So again, life has a way of connecting things, sending you on your path, and presenting you with situations with which to learn. Not only did I possibly make a new friend, but also someone to learn from and perhaps she can learn from me too.

Not everything that happens in our life is good, but perhaps take a step back and see where this path is leading you, perhaps this situation has been presented before and you just did not realize it. Perhaps you become friends with someone , loose contact, only to find each other again a short time later. Or perhaps you ended up running late, that everything you did seemed to go wrong, only to find out later, had you been on time, that you would have been in a car accident or seriously hurt. Take the Twin Tower event of Sept 11. There were many people that were "supposed" to be at work that day, and for one reason or another were not.

Everything happens for a reason and has a way of working out. Its up to us to learn from it and make these connections. The more aware you are of it, the easier it will be to make these connections.

If anyone ever has any questions, or comments about a blog entry feel free to write in the comment section and I will try to answer. I love hearing about other peoples experiences as well. If you can't post in the comment section (I think that you have to have a gmail account, feel free to email me at Cheri22@gmail.com and write BLOG in the subject line so I know its a question/comment pertaining to a post)