M/C, and the spiritual reason behind it

M/C (mis-carriages) are never fun....obviously, but unfortuently they happen, and usually happen for what appears to be no reason at all. I can no predict m/c. I don't know if its because I "won't" or "can't". I like to keep my predictions positive and happy and not be the bearer of any bad news that they might have, so I am pretty much left in the dark if a pregnancy will end in M/C. I have asked them not to show that to me. If this happens to you and you recieved a prediction for this child, what does that mean? I am sure that is on everyones mind, does that mean that the child is no longer coming and that little girl or boy is "gone" for good.. The answer.. No.. It does not mean that at all. Sometimes the order in which I had given you might change, other times it will remain the same. I think that it depends on the person or the chart to which they are following. If you experienced a m/c at all then email me and let me know and we can see if anything has been altered. Either letting you know that the order is the same, and even a new connection month.

I do not give bad news. As mentioned, I want this to be a positive journey. We have so much negative things happening in the world, that I choose to let my predictions focus on the positive things in life and what is to come. So unless you specifically ask about something, or its important that you know, it will not be put in your reading.

In regards to m/c and why they happen, I explain it in a spiritual sense and how I feel that they are connected. Perhaps seeing it in this light will help families heal with their loss.

Before we come here, we draw up blueprints of our lives. The lessons in life that we plan to learn, the people we will meet who will help us on this journey and so forth. Sometimes on our way here, we realize that we either made our charts too hard or to easy and we decide to go back and alter it before we return again.

Sometimes this puts things out of order with the way that the children come in. Sometimes it still works out fine, othertimes things are "shuffled" and the order is restored. Its not easy at all to deal with a loss of any kind. Whether you were ttc or just unexpectantly found yourself pregnant. Each experience is unique, and unfortunetly it happens.

Try and realize that things happen for a reason, and may not be known now but will be in the near future and open up more understanding for the situation at hand. For those of you who are really suffering, make sure to reach out, talk to people, open up about the loss you feel and let it all out. Connect with other families who have experineced the same loss as you and find yourself making new life long friends....

Big hugs to those of you who have experienced losses.. I can't only imagine your pain.

ON a small side note, I am almost caught up! According to my email It appears I am still behind by a bit, but in the time frame it lists, there are not many for each day listed. I should have it caught up really fast. I have been working really hard and continue to do so!

lets talk about EFT

I am not sure if alot of you have heard of EFT before. (Emotional Freedom Techniques) I am in the process of learning more about it, but have two friends who know it, and have learned it, and said that it really works. I think that you will find that this also points towards positive thinking and mind over matter. Showing you just how powerful of a tool your mind really is and how much you can control the way things affect you in your life.

My friend is currently pregnant, and due in SEPT and felt a bit "detached" to the pregnancy. Although she was very much happy to be pg and waiting for the baby to come, she didn't seem to be as excited as everyone around her. She took this course for EFT and the man who was teaching explained the connection and why she was feeling the way that she did. He taught her how to "tap" and thus allowed the connection to her child to flow that much more freely.

She also had a migraine headache, (which normally would require her to lay down to sleep it off for a bit) and was able to "tap" the headache away for 20 minutes and then was completely gone!

Her friend, who was "humoring" another friend by taking the class, was called upon to be the guinea pig. He asked her about allergies, and other things that might be ailing her, and she mentioned her severe allergies to pets and grass. They spent about 20-30mins on her "tapping" and then she got to sit down. She though it was "bogus" and did not really believe in it, and just did it to be a good sport. Well the next day, she was cutting her lawn, only to realize that she did not take her steroid pills (she takes these for her allergies pretty much every day) There was NO swelling, no nothing. She was even able to go to my friends house who has two dogs, and not react PERIOD.

I know that this works with cravings, sugar, chocolate, pop..etc.. You name it, you can "tap" away the cravings and learn to control things better. I have done this slightly with my sweet tooth. Sometimes you just WANT that chocolate taste. By remembering to "tap" I was able to avoid it at least twice, and just walk away from it, and not "desperate" to eat it! lol.

I am learning as well, and find this subject very fascinating, and will continue to post more information at different times in regards to this subject for those of you who wish to give it a try and learn as well.

Here is a link that comes from the youtube site for this EFT. Its a great place to start

http://www.emofree.com/splash/video_popup.asp

And after watching that one, check out this link below. This clip kinda puts it in an "easy" to understand directions:)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aQp0kA5a5OI&mode=related&search=

So if this EFT can work for so many ailments and wants/needs, why not FERTILITY!

Saturdays Post!

I noticed below that someone mentioned that they could not find the "positive thinking excersises" that I had posted previously and I had said that they were "below" only to realize that they were burried under the posts as they were written in an older post. So i guess I have copied and pasted it for those of you who might be interested in reading it, and could not locate it as well!

POSITIVE THINKING - TIP/TRICK

I also wanted to post about "positive energy". I do believe in the "laws of attraction" so if you have not read or watched "the secret" you might find it beneficial. I do believe that you can "control" the positive and negative energy. We all have this gift, and when focusing on something "negative" or a "hurdle" in your life you tend to bring more negative in. When you focus on the positive aspects of your life, you tend to allow more positiveness in your life. You will see a shift. This goes with ttc as well. When your so worried about not being able to concieve, you actually limit your ability. Your body reacts and litterally its going to be hard to concieve. When you alter your thinking you can alter this as well.For example:What I tell people is as followsafter having sex with your husband, stay in bed with your hips elevated for 20 minutes. Do not get out of bed until this time. With your eyes closed, I want you to envision the sperm going up and into your urterus, and envision the sperm metting up with your egg, and getting inside. After you have pictured this, say in your mind "this is my month to concieve. I feel relaxed and at peace. I am ready for this baby".. etc. I want you to do this at least three times... You can do this every time you have sex if you like, but its most important at your approx time for ovulation.your mind is a powerful thing.. you will be amazed at what you will accomplish. I think that you need to also cut out pictures of babies, and put on your fridge. these are positive goals, ways to set your mind forward.. positive thinking....When I did this, it was the month I concieved my daughter. (now almost 4). I know a few other women who have tried this, and had much success as well.!

In an update, I attended the wake on Friday for a family I knew. Their step father died on Saturday and no one knew it was going to happen. I did not know the step dad extremely well but went there out of the respect for the family I have known for MANY years. The time I cried was giving the three daughters and their mother a hug. To see the pain and anguish in their eyes and feel it radiating from theirselves. What do you say to someone who just lost a loved one?

I am still working on catching up. I managed to do 14 predictions tonight alone after putting my daughter to bed, so that is a start. I am hoping to do the same tomorrow night as well.

During the days I have been working at home, I have still taken my daughter to daycare. I always go and pick her up a bit early though so she too benefits from me working at home. i know that If I kept her home while I was home, i would not get any work done. Shes still at the stage where she calls me every 5 minutes from the living room ( a stones throw from the computer room) to tell me she loves me, but insists that I come into the living room to see her)

On Tuesday I hurt my jaw, I was eating smarties (okay have a sweet tooth and like my chocolate!) and felt a "twinge" or muscle spasm in the right side of my face. Right between my jaw line and ear, and its still hurts! If I eat anything too "hard" or have to chew it too much it starts to ache and is swollen. I paniced at first when I saw how swollen the side of my head was, but my husbnd insisted that i take these muscle relaxors and that it would help. Thursday at my day job, I managed to only be able to eat 1/4 of my bowl of cereal because it hurt, took two musle relaxors and then felt "stoned' the morning while I was at work. I could not really remember much, walked around in a daze and just felt really out of it! Learned my lesson! lol

That morning had told my daughter and my husbnad that my head felt stuffed up (because fo the swelling) and my daughter said "then dont eat anymore" thinking stuffed=full belly idea!

I took my daughter to an amusement part not far, and she and I took pictures of each other. They are located on the side bar to the right:) Check it out!

Best wishes to you all:)

Loss of a loved one

Loss of a loved one is never easy, no matter how connected you are to them. I have recently learned that a family I have known for over 15 years, have just lost their beloved Step dad. I watched these three girls since the youngest was 10 months old, and now she is almost 16. This man was a funny person, kind and very loving towards his step daughters and the love of his life Ester. (the girls mother). He was still very young (in his 40's) and from what they know, he went to the Dr's on Friday and never returned. They are still unsure of what happened, or why he went in to the Dr's office that day and no one has a clue if he was feeling unwell or in pain. They are all in the dark about this and planning a funeral for him on Friday which I will be attending.

Its not easy dealing with death. I am a happy and positive person and was just telling my boss, that I would prefer that there was no "early" death. Meaning, that once you reached say 85 years old, that you could at any point decide that you wanted to go "home" and then pass on, that there would be no cancer or other terminal illnesses, that there would be no accidents or losses of a child, no murders or suicides... that you hit a "golden" age and then you could decide when it was time.

I have been honest with my daughter about death, and letting her know that everyone will die eventually and that it usually happens when your REALLY old, and start daydreaming again how perfect it would be if we could decide when the time was right.

I know back "home" we write up our own blueprints of our lives, the people we want to meet, the life lessons we plan to learn, and how everything fits into it, and the "exit" point we have chosen. So I try to think positive and know that people had a plan for themselves and that they will be severly missed, but they are truely okay and going "home".

I have done a lot of readings for people who are looking for a loved one who has passed over. I am very successful about reaching who someone is looking for and have made many people happy. I usually only include this with the Family bypass, but for those of you who wish to contact a loved one, I will do it for the same rate as the Prediction bypass (7.00). If this is what you would like, please purchase it from my site, and in the subject line please write "loved one" and include a first name of the person you are trying to connect with.

Best wishes to those of you who have experineced a loss of any kind in your life.

An update of sorts!

Well, I am still behind on emails, and this week my goal is to be caught up by friday! I have three days to work from home this week and going to be working my butt off so that I am within the 24-48 hours to reply that I like to with the paid predictions.

As most of you know, I have a four year old daughter, and have just learned that sometimes four year olds can be more challenging than a two year old! Shes in the stage where shes trying to assert her Independence, and usually involves her telling me "no" to a request that i have made, or doing things as if shes trying to make me mad. I am not a "mad" person, and do not like feeling that way, so trying to find ways of interacting with her, where shes still getting her Independence, but I am still getting the "goal". Its been hard the last two weeks I will tell you that! lol

Also while scouring the Internet I came across a website that posted some of the natural herbs for ttc. I know that some people are really into trying natural herbs before having to resort to clomid or the like. I have copied and pasted the references here so that some of you might be able to look into it a bit more and see if its right for you and perhaps further you on your ttc journey. Please note, do not take any herbal remedies without consulting with your dr. I have heard previous that there are some herbs that do not mix well with other medications or other herbs and should not be taken together. Consult your dr before taking ANYTHING!

The Tayler Tonic is actually two separate herbal tinctures. Chaste Tree Berry (also known as Vitex) and False Unicorn Root. You can read about their properties on the general information page.

For optimum results, you should use this in conjunction with some type of cycle tracking method, such as CycleBeads™ or Fertility Awareness Method. This is so that you will have an accurate idea of when you ovulate and how long your luteal cycle (the period between ovulation and the start of your next period) is.

Dilute 30 drops of Chaste Tree Berry tincture in water or juice (juice will mask the taste better) three times daily, beginning on day 1 of your cycle (the first day of your period) and continuing through the day of ovulation.
You can take the False Unicorn one of two ways: 30 drops under the tongue three times daily or diluted in juice three times daily (I recommend the juice because of the taste). Begin on the day of ovulation and continue until the first day of your next period or through the first trimester, whichever is applicable.
Some herbalists believe False Unicorn Root is an extremely powerful tool for getting pregnant and recommend starting it on cycle day 1. This is completely up to you. I only started using it beginning with ovulation, but I did not have much problems with actually conceiving a baby, just carrying a live one to term.

Information

Chaste Tree Berry / Vitex
Believed to be effective in promoting general reproductive health, especially in regards to Pre-Menstrual Syndrome. Helps regulate hormones. Caution should be used before using during pregnancy; should probably not be used during third-trimester as it can bring on early breast milk flow. May help male impotence

Evening Primrose Oil
Effective in increasing the quantity and quality of cervical mucous. May be helpful for women who tend to be drier than normal around ovulation. In late pregnancy, can be used to "ripen" the cervix in preparation for deliver--use only under your doctor or midwife's care!

False Unicorn Root
Believed to be effective in preventing threatened miscarriage, though how is unknown. Also a remedy for morning sickness, though taking too much may cause nausea. Can be taken through the first trimester of pregnancy, possibly longer depending on your specific situation. See an herbalist for specific advice.

Ginger
General fertility promoter. Helps morning sickness and is an anti-spasmodic (ie helps cramps). Also an expectorant, which means it increases cervical mucous, which is necessary for sperm motility. CAUTION: Do NOT use ESSENCE OF GINGER, which is different than the actual ginger herb. Use with caution in early pregnancy.

Lady's Mantle
Believed to alleviate excessive menstruation. General fertility promoter.

Licorice
Is an expectorant, which means it increases cervical mucous, which is necessary for sperm motility.

Red Raspberry Leaf
Useful uterine tonic. Strengthens and tones the uterus to assist in making contractions more productive. Can be a laxative. Avoid using in first trimester.

Wild Yam Root
Believed to help strengthen the body and increase progesterone production. May also regulate hormones. Contains dioscorin, which in high dosages can be toxic. Usually the amount found in herbal teas is negligible. Is contraindicated with some medicines, so ask your doctor!


Disclaimer and Precautions

Herbs should be used with respect and caution! No one doubts the powerful medicinal properties of herbs. They are used regularly in the treatment of diseases and to promote good health, and have been for centuries. However, because they can be so powerful, the can interact dangerously with some medications or with each other. I encourage you to seek the advice of a licensed herbalist or naturopath and to clear the use of any herbs through your regular physician. Many tradtional physicians do not feel the use of herbs in any form are wise, so keep this in mind when speaking with your doctor. If he/she is against the use of herbs, find out specifically why and which herbs--there may be good reasons and your naturopath should know before they advise you on specific herbal remedies. For the most part, herbs are not regulated by the FDA, so be sure to only buy herbs in their purest forms and from reputable and established companies.

Wednesdays Storey of Inspiration!

I am sure that many people have suffered "infertility" and this can be the cause of many things. Sometimes even experienceing loss(es) that are unexplainable, and just as hard. There are many people who want a baby so badly, yet everytime they try end up experincing heart ache and just want to give up. Todays inspirtation storey is someone who had success and loss, how she felt about her ttc and her positive results in the end.

My story:

My Battle with Infertility

My husband and I decided we wanted to start a family in 2002 but were not actively trying to conceive. Seven months of "not trying but not preventing" and we were pregnant. The pregnancy was great. Other than morning sickness for 6 months, all was well. In June 2003, I gave birth to a beautiful son.

When our son was 14 months old, we decided to start trying for another baby. I had my IUD removed and was told I should get pregnant as soon as or maybe quicker than it took me to get pregnant with my son, so we figured 7 months again. Well, it took us about 10 months. We found out I was finally pregnant on August 6th, 2005. We were excited!! I started having abdominal pain and went into the doctor. They did an ultrasound and ran some tests. Everything seemed fine, although they couldn't find anything on the ultrasound, no baby, no sac, no nothing. I was devasted but they said It could just be too early to see anything. Ten days after finding out I was pregnant, I began to bleed. I was miscarrying my baby. It was almost the hardest thing I had ever been put through. But since it was an early loss, I was able to start trying again right away. We figured that since I was probably still fertile, we'd get pregnant right away...Nope! We didnt conceive for another 11 months!

Why is this taking so long? Why can't we get pregnant so easily? Why can women who don't want kids get pregnant on a one night stand? Why can drug addicts have kids and here I struggle? Why? Why? Why?? All these questions went through my mind a million times over. I was heartbroken. Miscarriage was a thing I had heard of other women going through, but not something I'd ever thought would happen to me. It took me a long time to get over the loss of my baby. Yes, I only knew I was pregnant for 10 days, but those were the best 10 days of my life. I was attached to that baby as soon as I saw a positive on that pregnancy test. My angel is now watching over me and my family and I will see him again one day. That will be an awesome day....

So finally June 2006 comes around and I find out that I'm pregnant again!! Finally...after 11 long months of trying, we are pregnant again!! We are thrilled!! I just know this baby is going to hang on because, yes I went through one loss, but there is no way I would go through another in a row, right? I call the doc and inform them I'm pregnant. Due to having had a loss less than a year earlier, they have me go for bloodwork to get my HCG levels. I'm supposed to go back in 2 days to get them drawn again and make sure they double. Those 2 days were so long. I so badly wanted to hear good news. I didn't get the news I wanted. My numbers never went up, instead they dropped...My worse fear was coming true again. I was losing a 2nd baby in a row, in less than a year's time.

This time I get bitter, angry and become hateful towards pregnant women. I stopped going to church because I couldn't stand to see all the pregnant women there and hear about all the recent births. The thought of pregnant women angered me to no end. All the same why questions from the first loss were going through my head again. How could God do this to me? Why wasn't he allowing me to become a mother again? What was I doing wrong? Why do I keep losing babies?? I finally thought that I wasn't going to be allowed by God to have any more children, but I didn't give up. I wasn't ready to give up yet. I wanted another child desperatly. So we went back to trying again, right away. I knew, it wouldn't be easy to get pregnant. It had been an uphill battle taking almost a year each time to get pregnant again. I figured we had another long road ahead of us. Finally though, I decided we couldn't do this on our own and I sought medical help.

I went to my midwife and she did pretty much all she could do. She started me on Clomid and I also started progesterone to maintain the pregnancy if I were to conceive again. After about 4 months of no success she sent me to see an OB that specializes in Infertility. We did a sperm analysis on my husband. I had an HSG done. Everything was coming out great. We were both healthy and were able to make babies, so why was this taking us so long?? Finally the OB doc puts me on Clomid again and we go to check out follicles to make sure the Clomid is working and that I'm ovulating. To my disappointment, my body didn't respond to the Clomid. I was not ovulating at all. Only God knows how long that had been happening. I was heartbroken again. I felt like a failure. I was the one who couldnt give my husband any more kids and who couldn't give my son a sibling he's been so desperatly asking for. I felt crushed, lonely and like a complete and utter failure.


Well my doc sent me for bloodwork to check my estrogen levels and he reviewed my ultrasound. He called me back that night and said it looked like only 3 of the 6 follies were actually mature. So he said we could go through with the cycle. I had to get an HCG trigger shot to make me ovulate. My husband and I were excited! Finally, after all this time, we actually had a decent shot at getting pregnant!!

Almost exactly a year since my last pregnancy, we found out on June 9th, 2007 that we are pregnant again!! I can't believe it!! It finally happened for us again!! After 31 cycles total of trying for another baby and 2 miscarriages, we are expecting!! Holy Cow!! I went and had my bloodwork done and the numbers were really high and they more than doubled in the 48 hour time frame!

On July 9th, 2007 we went in for our first ultrasound and found not one baby, but 2!! We are expecting twins in Feb 2008!! Both babies are measuring right on target and both had good strong heartbeats. We couldn't be happier!!

So this is my story of my battle on infertility and miscarriages. It was a hard, long road. There was lots of heartache and stress. My advice to anyone who is struggling with this is to not ever give up. There were many a days I just wanted to quit. I couldn't handle it and didn't want to do it anymore. I had a great support system with friends, family and my husband. Most importantly, my husband. He was amazing through the whole process. He hated seeing me get my hopes up each month and then fall into a bad depression each time my period showed each month. But he was and still is amazing.



I'm not sure how inspiring my story is, but I do know that there are many ladies out there that have experienced the pain of miscarriages and the heartache of infertility. If nothing else, I hope my story gives those out there some hope.

Rachel


As mentioned before, if you have a storey that is inspirational that might help other people go through a tough situation and know that there is a positive outcome that can happen, that there is a way out of it, I woudl love to hear it and post it on this blog. I am hoping to have an inspirational storey for every Wednesday. Something positive to share, and brighten everyones day.. to provide hope. For the inspirational storey, I will give one question answered indepth> email cheri22@gmail.com for more information.

Stay tuned to the blog, have many interesting topics to talk about in the next few weeks that hopefully everyone enjoys reading just as much as I did.

We all have a "gift"

i have talked to many people online lately that have a "gift" or "psychic awareness" to them and they know it... I just wanted to make sure that everyone knows that we ALL have this same gift. There are others who have made it stronger, tuned it in more if you will and use it, others have an idea its there, but usually toss it off as coincidence, and second guess themselves, and other people are just too "freaked" or "scared' To use theirs and turn it off completely. Some people's gifts or area of expertise are different. They are able to interpret things differently or access their information in other ways. Some using tarot cards, some through intuition, others through channeling...etc.

For those of you interested in opening yours up, all you have to do is just go with it. You can open yourself up to further experiences and be amazed at what you can learn about yourself. When I first started being more "aware" according to my mother I was about 3 years old when i started mentioning things of me talking to people who had already passed over. There are two times in my mothers mind that really stand out. Once I insisted that my "nana' had told me not to fight with my sister, and another when we drove past a graveyard and I insisted a little girl who was my friend was in there, and I wanted to go and see her (I had never been to this graveyard ever before)

As I got older, I started tuning my gift out (like we all do) and tossing things off as a coincidence. It was about 2 years ago that I really opened my eyes and started to realize all of the things I "knew" but couldn't have known. It was then, that I just went with it, and have been on this amazing journey. Its about opening yourself up to the energies around you, to connecting with people on a deeper level. You just need to go with it, and use it, and you will find that your more "aware' of things that you would not normally know. I know as time goes by I learn more interpretation skills, I strengthen my gift and find myself opening up more about it. Learning more. Lately being seeing more "premonitions" of things happening just before they do. Took my daughter and her friend to a garage sale. They gave both the girls balloons (helium filled) and on our drive back I "saw" my daughters friends balloon floating in the air, and her crying. So when I got home, I made sure to get out of the car, go to her side before she got out, and grabbed her balloon as she was not holding it. She climbed out, I handed it to her, and then turned around to close the door.. and guess what happened.. she let go, the balloon floated up and she cried. This has been happening more lately.

The most amazing experience is also about connecting people with loved ones who have passed over. I have done many a "live reading" on MSN or even in person where the one who has passed over has come so strong where they have made me cry. (in a good way) showing me their emotion of extreme happiness, or sadness of "missing" their loved ones..etc. I have had loved ones who have passed over, hi-jack readings and insist on coming through without the other person even requesting it.. and usually fairly good about connecting with who your looking for. There are the odd times that someone else comes through first, and can try to go around them. I usually do connections for loved ones included in the family bypass, but if your looking for just one person and that's the only question you have, then I will gladly do it for the same "bypass" prediction payment.

I think that life after death exists. That we do go "home"., I have not seen it myself, but have read books about what it looks like, and it "feels" right to me. Perhaps it also makes me feel a bit better about accepting that "death" happens. Knowing that this is not the end...

In regards to today's post, there is a blog contest included.. first person to name my two spirit guides who help me on this journey win the 15.00 Sibling express. I have mentioned it to numerous people. Might have even named it on this blog...otherwise, try and google it, check my site... its listed:)

Best wishes

Cheri

Inspiration storey- a bit late

Todays storey is from a lady that I have talked to for quite some time now. Shes very friendly and enjoyable to talk to, but unfortunetly going through a rough patch in her life. She wanted to share her storey with you all to give you some insight on what happend with her, and perhaps to open some other women/mens eyes if they are going through the same thing, but not realizing it just yet.

Infidelity. I have grown to hate that word in the last little while. My husband and I have been married for 14 years. Last December he threw for a loop. I felt like the rug had been pulled up from underneath me. He said he wasn’t happy. He said to me he had to move out and be on my own and think a while and that we need to separate. I was devastated. What did I do? He told me he left left out, unloved and has been feeling this way for a while, more like a year. I thought, why didn’t you tell me? I asked you a many times to talk to me. Too late. He was leaving no matter what. He told me he was staying with a friend. Well a few weeks later, in January of this year I found out he was lying to me. I found out he was staying with a woman he works with. I have met her. I got suspicious of the two when my husband drove her to and from work and he would spend more and more time with her. I trusted my husband, I was always proud of the fact he was very loyal and trustworthy. What a fool I was. I was numb. I couldn’t move. I phoned my husband’s cell phone. I called him every name in the book (and not good ones) he said "I’m living here, yes. But I haven’t done anything with her. Just a kiss." What am I an idiot? He kept denying that they were a couple for about a month. How did I even live those days. I can’t remember. It's all a blur. I don’t even know how I got up in the morning be a mom to my kids and went to work. I had lost about 12 pounds. Everyone was noticing I was losing weight. It’s call the “my husband is fooling around on me” diet. I don’t recommend it. A month later goes by and in February I asked him bluntly if he was sleeping with her. He responds in a round about way “we are co-habituating”. Man of few words he is! Another devastating blow. But I knew it, I just didn’t want to think it was true. We are still separated. My husband is still with the "other woman". He says they are but how can I believe anything he says anymore. He says he wants to come home but thinks that everybody will think bad of him and I will hang this over his head. I have told him I want to work on the marriage and I am ready to talk and get through this. He's in a fog still. Time will tell.


I have coped in these last six months by having my friends and family as support. Also I have attended about six sessions of counselling. The therapist helped me realize that the affair was not my fault, no matter if he blames you for it. I may have caused part of the problems in the marriage, as did he, but I did not tell him to have an affair. I’ve also learnt that communication in any relationship is key. It is so important. They say hindsight is 20/20. Looking back there are things I wish I would have been more focused on. Having children are a big responsibility, and marriage is a partnership, when one thing is being focus on too much their other one suffers. I can’t stress enough to try to achieve a balance and harmony and communicating when you feel things are not right
Lynn


In other news, my daughter is feeling a bit better. She has not puked since Wednesday, but still seems to have the diareha. My husband and I have still not experienced this, so now starting to wonder if its something she ate. According to her daycare, one of the kids that attends there had an upset stomach and similar problems, but everyone else is fine! Any ideas on how to help the diareha to go away?

In regards to predictions, being home part time has allowed me to get a bit more caught up and in no time at all I should be able to be right on schedule as I prefer to be.

LIVE READINGS - this has been going really well and fairly popular, and with me now being at home a few days a week can now open this up a bit more and do it during the day as well. So, if you would prefer to do your reading "live" its done like a "family bypass" reading. Its currently the same charge right now (25.00 CAD) and the reading is 1/2 hour long (follow up questions can be sent by email if forgot to ask something during live reading) I dont have the payment option on my website just yet as I can't figure out how to update the silly thing! (getting my mom's husband to show me what i am doing wrong) but if your intersted in the live reading, click on family bypass option and in subject line change it to LIVE READING and we can figure out a time that is convient for us both, and do it through email gmail or msn:)

REIKI - not many people have heard of reiki, I just finished a few weeks ago my first level one, and I can tell you what an experience it was (you can google reiki to find out more about it) its a way to help people heal on a more spiritual level. using your hands and energy to channel it thorugh and alot of people have felt some really positive benefits. If anyone in the lower mainland (BRITISH COLOUMBIA/CANADA) is interested in having a session, email me at cheri22@gmail.com and we can work out a date. This is done at a location and can not be done through email.


POSITIVE THINKING - I can not "stress" this enough to everyone. You really need to make sure that your positive thinking cap is on. That you try and see the good in everything. I know that ttc is a stressful time at most when it doesn't happen the first try, but sometimes we end up getting upset or worked up about it not happening, conveinced that our bodies are against us or that something is not right which is why we "can't " concieve.. you need to change that. You need to not think negatively about the situation, as you sometimes bring that onto your body and actually part of the reason why you have not concieved.

You need to visualize concieving and try to stay clear of the 'can't. I have posted some positive thinking exercises below for everyone to try. It has helped alot of people and change the way that they see things. It follows along "the secret". if you have not watched that, google it "the secret" or watch a bit of it on youtube. Its very powerful:)