Open Blog Night - Pregnancy update

as per the last open blog, someone requested an update my on pregnancy.

I am currently 17weeks and 1 day along right now, my last Dr appt was on the 6th of December, where he tried to listen to the heartbeat. After him looking for a few minutes and not finding it, I did start to worry abit and ask him if this was bad news. He said "nope, lets just continue, I am sure we can find it". Within a minute, he found it! I was relieved. He said that the baby was higher up than where he was looking and appeared to be right below my belly button. I did realize that this is where it was before, because the sporadic movements I felt were located there, but never thought of mentioning that to the dr!

My U/S appt is on December 27, I am hoping that I can bring my daughter with me so that she can see the baby. My husband is undecided if he wants to come. Although he is excited about the baby, the appt is 1.5hour drive from our house, and he more than likely would have to work that day, which takes MIN 4 hours from his work day. So we will see. This is the only location close to here that will tell you the gender of the baby. My Husband and I would like to know this time to plan things. I kept every little thing I had from my daughter, so if its a girl I have the clothes from newborn till 4 years, but if it turns out to be a boy, I'd like to do something with the girl clothes and go and get some boys. So would be nice to know.

Unfortunately here in BC, they will NOT tell you the gender at your U/S Appt, you have to wait one week for the information to get to your DR and then you will find out. Reason, is due to the multicultural part of BC, some ethnic groups have aborted due to to a certain gender being present. So they made a new law out here. Most U/S will not tell you the gender anymore, so if you really want to find out, you have to search out there to find one that will. So once i know what it is, I will post it here in my blog so that everyone knows.

According to my MIL though, no one will care when the baby is born, if everyone knows the gender :(. I told her that it upset me when she said that, but according to her, I have no reason to be mad/upset, as its only her opinion.. but when I give her my opinion, its considered "nit picking" at her.. anyone else find this unfair?

I still have not talked to my Mother in law since the last phone call that she hung up on me. I refuse to make the call.. I believe i tried two times already, and know its up to her to do so. Its sad really, that she can't get past herself to try and make amends. Although I would never stop a relationship with her and my daughter, what she has to realize is that I AM PART OF THIS FAMILY, and that to be able to continue with her relationship with my daughter she has to accept that, which means, that she has to be civil nice. We dont have to be best friends, we dont even have to go out together or talk.. but for my daughter and my husbands sake, we do have to co-exist and get along.

Today I am having an "emotional" day as I am always very polite and a happy person, always looking on the positive side, and I hate having conflict with people so it tends to really get me down.. But I am NOT going to be this womans doormat anymore, nor will I let her treat my husband that way either. (she is ALWAYS telling him what to do in OUR House, and it has to stop) So here I am at home, trying to just relax and take it easy. I am doing emails and will do what i can today before going to get my daughter:)

Okay, so as you know, Open blog night is about what you want to discuss. Is there something that has been bugging you about a dream? Perhaps something in your life that confuses you and you want help to figure out how it works, or how it can change? Or perhaps there is a part of your gift you want to explore more, and you would like more guidance? Just post in the comments section and perhaps your topic will be next weeks open blog night.