Well as most of you know, my grandfather died last week. I know, great way to start a topic on my blog. Well, today is going to be the day that we all go and celebrate his life. I think that its also the first time I really have not felt a connection with him since he has passed over. Usually people stay a few days to a week (or longer if they feel that their loved one needs them and can't do it without them) and then they go into the light so to speak and it usually takes me 6 months before I can reach them. Not sure if it takes that long to transition or perhaps build up enough strength that I can reach them. So usually within the first few days to a week its the easiest to connect with somenoe who has passed, or after the 6 month mark. I really do not feel my grandfather around. I have not had him come visit in a dream either. I know its harder to visit with your own loved ones than it is to help someone else....but I get for some reason, that he was tired of being here (he suffered from dementia, vision loss and other such things) and was ready to head home. Hopefully he can be there for the service as I really think that there is going to be alot of people that are going to celebrate his life tomorrow. Hopefully its about memories and happiness, than sadness and grieve and regret. I hope people remember the time that they had with him, the memories they created rather than grieving the ones that they did not. The shoulda coulda wouldas should remain at home and the "I did, or we did" should show up. I am looking forward to hearing the loving stories of his life.
So to make this a post to create happiness... if you have had someone pass over and want to connect, post a comment in the post... I will draw a winner Sunday.
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My grandfather passed away in 2007. I miss him so much~ I for sure was close with him... We were with him as he passed. My family even gave me the rosary he was holding as he passed.... I miss him so much....
Hi Cheri
My best friend (Mum) passed away 18 months ago and I can honesty say it has not gotten any easier I miss her more then I thought possibe she was a wounderful positive person and not once did she complain about being told she had terminal cancer.I dream about her often and was only thinking the other day that I should see if this was her way of visiting me
I forgot to say I hope your grandfathers celebration of live is full of great stories alot of laughter and only a few tears
Lorna
I dont have a person that I would like to talk to, but I would like to say I'm sorry to hear about your grandfather. Any time something like that happens I think its best to remember and celebrated their life and enjoy good stories about them.
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alicia j
Hi Cheri,
I am so sorry for your grandfathers loss, but think it is wonderful that you will be celebrating his life tomorrow! My mom passed away January of 2007, a few months before my son was born.. and I think she is still around quite often. I dream about her contunially, not so much now as i did when she first passed.. i used to dream of her EVERY night for months... and it made me happy but also sad. I was happy that she was still 'here' but sad that she isnt really. I miss her so much, and it hasnt really gotten easier since she passed... but after dealing with her heart conditioni for 34 years... I do feel that she is better now. She was so strong and i beleive that i draw from her strength sometimes when i am feeling particularily down or sad. (those are also the days that I usually dream about her)
Are you saying that my dreams are her spirit still here? is she a guide as well??? or just watching over me and my family!
I am SO GLAD that I found your blog. You have some really amazing posts that i can totally relate to, and they also open up my mond to things i sometimes dont understand!
I hope you enjoy your celebration of your grandfather tomorrow!
Hugs
Danna
My grandfather passed away March 5 1995. It was hard on my family. Even though I was only five going on six years old. He was pratically another dad to me and my cousins. We saw him everyday and played a major part in all of our lives. He was like the only dad my special needs cousin Ashley ever known. She has down syndrome and has the mentality of a three year old. She has no concept about death so she still talks to him now and then in a particular spot he would always be and talk with him. Lol its sometimes funny when she bickers at him. It lets us and especially my grandmother that he's still here. He always made people feel special and good about themselves and very open minded. He welcomes his step grandchildren as his own, for a few gay guys (friends of my aunts) he was a father figure to them and treated them as family when their own family treated them like dirt. And this was a time when people were not as openminded as today. Just had to say something since the anniversary of his death was yesterday.
My story is the same as redreila89@yahoo.com because we are sisters. I was a lot younger than Amanda when he passed away and do not remember him at all except when I'm told. I think about him and wonder what he thought of me and I'm told all the time I have his exact unique sense of the humor. My grandmother tells me for someone who had the shortest time with him and with no memories of him I act like him the most.
Courtney
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I am sorry for your loss Cheri!
My Grandfather passed away a little over a year ago, I miss him terribly. He was a very special person in my life. I was away (out of the country) when he passed, I feel bad that I wasn't there at the end to say Goodbye.
I hope your Grandfather was pleased with his celebration of life.
Take care,
Kate
My dad passed away almost 2 years ago at the age of 56. I miss him terribly and as we approach the 2 year mark of his passing, I start thinking more and more about him and wander how my life has gone on and how it's already been almost 2 years. I was 33 when he died, (35 now), and it all just seemed to happen too quickly. I have never seen my dad in a dream or felt his presence since about a week after he passed away. Since then, nothing. It's really sad and I feel so disconnected. I miss him.
My mother in law was the best MIL you could ever get, she passed away September 8, 2008 and we've missed her ever since. I wish I got to know her more, but from what I got to hear from her she was awesome. Best mom in law and mother ever.
My grandma passed at least 5 yrs ago and there is not a day that goes by i don't think about her. I would love to know she is well and with us as much as i feel she is!
Hi Cheri,
I know this contest is over, but I still felt the urge/connection to make a comment and share my story. I lost a dear friend to breast cancer one month before her 30th birthday on December 21, 2007. She left behind an 8 week old son and a 2 year old son (at the time). I've never felt so much pain inside for those boys and her family, let alone myself. I used to get messages from her often. And even went to a medium to communicate with her not long after her passing.(She communicated with me 4 times on my birthday in 2008 as well.) I've had a visit from her in 2 dreams.
I'm heading into my 2nd ivf cycle. I used to reach out to her durin my first cycle, asking her to be there with me through the rough parts... to give me the courage and strength she had. I remember when I went in for my egg retrieval... I was SO scared. The last thing I remember in the OR was looking at the ceiling and asking her in my mind to come hold my hand. Next thing I know, I'm waking up in recovery. I'd love to believe that it was in fact her signal to me that she was there holding my hand. But I haven't had a message from her in so long, and after that first ivf cycle failed, was starting to wonder if she really was around anymore. I remember so many of our last conversations so vividly. How badly she wanted to make it to my wedding (but didn't), how much she couldn't wait for me to be a mom (no such luck yet after a year and a half of trying). Gosh, I could go on forever about her. Thank you for giving me an opportunity to share my story, and the story of a courageous woman.
I'm sure your grandfather's life celebration and his presence filled everyone with joy and appreciation for the lifetimes spent with him.
Thank you
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