The best way to get pregnant

is to know your body and your cycle. I know that when first starting to try to conceive for our first child, I really did not have any clue, other than it obviously took a man's sperm and a womens egg, and a bit of "baby dancing" to conceive. There is so much information out there, to try and make it easier for you to recognize the signs that your body shows you every month in order to help you concieve. By watching for these signs, you can tell if you have a "regular" cycle or if you will require any further help from the dr. I can't stress enough through, positive thinking really does help with conceiveing in any form! I have found some information that makes it "easy" almost like a "ttc for dummies" lol, that is very self explanatory and hopefully will help those that might not have as much information about conceiving as some others or perhaps just starting! If anyone else has any information that they would love to share, please post in the comments section or email me and I can update the blog to include it:)


Knowing your menstrual cycle — Physical changes to look for
Counting the days of your cycle can tell you how long your cycles are and whether or not they are regular, but the most reliable way to monitor changes in your fertility is by paying attention to clues from your body. Changes in your cervical mucus, basal body temperature and the position of your cervix can help you follow your cycle from start to finish. Some women chart all of these changes carefully to either increase or reduce their chances of becoming pregnant. Some women follow their cycles to know when to expect their periods, or to feel more in tune with their bodies.

Cervical Mucus
Mucus from your cervix changes throughout your cycle in response to hormonal changes. It’s a good marker of where you are in your cycle and checking your cervical mucus is quick, easy and reliable. Some women produce more mucus than others and may be able to see the mucus in their underwear. Others may need to feel the entrance of their vagina for it – use your fingertips or toilet paper. You can check your mucus at any time during the day.

At the beginning of your cycle, when oestrogen levels are low, you won’t have much mucus at all. This dryness means you are relatively infertile. This is usually just after your period, but if you have a short cycle, it may be at the same time as your period and therefore difficult to monitor.

A few days later, depending on the length of your cycle, your mucus will begin to increase. It may be sticky, white, milky or cloudy. This is a signal that you are entering your fertile window and nearing ovulation. If you are not using contraception and do not want to get pregnant, you should avoid sex from this point until a few days after you stop seeing egg-white mucus (see below). If you do want to get pregnant, this mucus marks the beginning of your fertile time.
Just before ovulation, a woman’s mucus becomes slippery, stretchy and clear – like raw egg-white. This egg-white mucus helps sperm move from the vagina through the cervix and into the uterus in search of an egg. This is the most fertile time in a woman’s cycle.

After ovulation, the mucus changes from the egg-white type back to a thicker, cloudier mucus. You may still be fertile if you see this mucus, but only for two or three days at most. Four days after your last egg-white mucus, you will be in the infertile phase of your cycle.

Your cervix still produces mucus after this point but under the influence of progesterone the mucus is thick, sticky and acidic. It stays around the cervix to block the sperm and many women feel a dryness compared to earlier in their cycles. Some women have no noticeable mucus during this stage, while others notice a thick or white mucus.

Checking your mucus is one of the easiest and most accurate ways to follow your cycle, but changes in mucus can be difficult to detect if you have a vaginal infection or use spermicide. Antihistamines can also cause your cervix to produce less mucus, making it difficult to check.
Changes in your cervixYou can also note the different stages of your cycle by feeling your cervix. To feel the changes in your cervix, insert one or two fingers deep into your vagina until you can touch what feels like the tip of your nose. This is your cervix. You may be able to feel an indent or dimple in your cervix. This is the opening to your uterus – called the os.

Changes in your cervix throughout your cycle
At the beginning of your cycle, your cervix should feel firm and low. The os will be closed. But as you approach ovulation, the position and feel of your cervix changes. It may feel softer and higher in your vagina and the os will feel more open. This means you are in your most fertile phase.

After ovulation, the cervix becomes firm and closed again and moves lower in the vagina. When the cervix has been like this for 3 days, you are no longer in the fertile phase.

It may take a few cycles to recognise the changes in your cervix and get to know what is normal for you. If you are trying to get pregnant or avoid getting pregnant, you may want to check your cervix at about the same time every day. This is the most reliable way to track changes.

Basal body (waking) temperature
Basal body temperature is your temperature first thing in the morning – before getting out of bed or doing anything else. You can’t feel these slight changes in your body temperature but a basal thermometer can detect them. You can take your temperature orally, vaginally or rectally as long as you use the same method every day. Before ovulation your temperature may vary from day to day by about 0.1 degree Celsius. Just after ovulation, however, your temperature rises by at least 0.2 degrees Celsius and remains high until your next period. This increase in temperature is caused by the progesterone released from the follicle after ovulation.

It is important to note that the rise in your basal body temperature doesn’t tell you when you are fertile or about to ovulate. It tells you when you already have ovulated. Women are most fertile the few days before their peak temperature, and are least fertile once their temperature has remained high for three days.

Tracking your temperature is the most demanding method of charting your cycle. You must take your temperature at the same time every morning, as soon as you wake up and after at least three hours of sleep. Going to the bathroom, having a cup of tea or moving around too much can all change your temperature and make it more difficult to see a regular pattern. Other things can also affect your temperature, such as illness or infection, alcohol and some prescription and recreational drugs.

If you are keeping track of your basal body temperature, it may help to keep daily notes of the time you take your temperature and any thing else that may affect the reading. Sleeping in for an hour longer than normal, for example, could result in a rise in temperature that looks like ovulation, but isn’t.

Other signs of your cycle
You may notice other changes that mark the different stages of your cycle. Some women regularly experience abdominal pain (slight or severe), swollen breasts, lower back pain and mood changes (both good and bad). These types of signs are not very reliable in pinpointing your fertile or infertile phases, but they may help support your other observations.