I have always wondered when watching American idol when they show the people at the beinging who just can't sing yet insist that they are amazing and can't figure out why everyone has turned them down. If you were their friends/family would you not tell them the truth that they can't sing? Or do you spare their feelings and tell them how wonderful they will be and be in "shock" that they did not make it?
This is always such a tricky position to be in.. Would love to hear other peoples opinion on what you would say/do if in this position. Do you let your friend or family member find out on their own with their abilities, or do you break it to them gently to not quit their day job?
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Depends on the family member. If I were close to them like my mom or dad I would tell them the truth because I am blunt like that and they understand that. Anyone else and I would sugarcoat it.
I would have a really hard time telling someone that they weren't a good singer; I'm just bad at that kind of thing. My bf has no problem being blunt so I'd probably have him tell them, lol. I think some of those people must know they're bad and are hoping to be on TV or get some William Hung popularity or something but a lot of them do seem to genuinely think they're good. Danielle T.
I can be pretty blunt, but I don't like to hurt people's feelings. Soooo, I would find round about ways to tell them to find another job. There are those people I can honestly tell, "You suck" to and they would understand I am doing it out of love...lol May not sound like it, but sometimes you just have to be honest with people. I know I can't sing well, but I do it anyway because I love to.
Definitely tough. I hate to hurt people I dislike feelings so giving someone constructive criicism is hard to give to those you love and are near and dear to you. I think it would be easier if I knew that they knew they were just being goofy. It would just be hard if were being serious. I honestly think this is one of the things I dont think I can be outright blunt about, but at the same time I couldnt tell they were good either and pretend I love it. They'd be able to tell if I didnt like it probably by my body language.
I went through this actually. My previous boyfriend wanted (still wants) to be an actor. He's great in local theater but doesn't have a look that'll get him on TV anytime soon. I encouraged him to keep with his acting and auditions but to set realistic expectations and understand that it's not an easy field to break into. He pursued his computer career equally and I encouraged him in both areas so long as he didn't let the less realistic acting take over. He now has a sucessful career in computers and as a hobby has been making and starring in independant films (which are quite good actually) and hopes that one day he will make one good enough to get accepted to a film festival. He is grounded in that he knows where his money comes from but still keeps his dream alive. So my answer is careful nurturing and reasonable expectations!
I would let them know in as nice of a way as possible. I would not want someone that I care about to make a fool of themselves on national television and I would hope they would do the same for me.
I'm all about honesty so I would have to say something....I'd want someone to tell me the truth....same goes for those awkward moments when you have food in your teeth or things hanging out of your nose.....I'm the first person to say something and if I don't have a mirror, I always ask people to check for me!
I would definitely be 100% honest if i am asked my opinion. I would want a friend/family member to tell me the truth.
I would tell them the truth. I would not want them to embaress themselves. Depending on the person it may not be an easy thing to do but I would still be truthful.
y not tape them and show them to themselves?? that might solve the problem and you dont have to be the "meanie" lol..
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