Do you have someone who is "toxic" in your life?

I am sure that at one point or another you have had someone who is more "toxic" or negative in your life that you just can't seem to get rid of. Either its your parents, your friend, your sibling or ex-boyfriend or even currently relationship/husband. Most times these people can possibly be tied into a lesson we need to learn in our lives, and since we have not learned it, we have been unable to move on. Other times, we are more afraid of the unknown and wouldn't know what to do with ourselves should we actually have the courage to move on.

There are other ways of dealing with people who are not good for you. Whether they cause you anguish, sorrow, sadness, anger, resentment.... and if they happen to be family and you have no choice but to put up with them (ie parents or siblings) then you can use this technique to help lessen their impact on your life and your emotional state.

Stand up, and imagine yourself attached to them with tons of strings, these are strong, almost like guitar type strings and "see" them going from your stomach and attaching to the other person at their stomach. They do not have to be in the room for your to "see" this. In your mind, visualize yourself having a pair of scissors in your hand, grab a hold of the strings, and start cutting. (Cut all of them but one, as you might need to keep some attachment to this person if they are related. ) You will actually see in your mind the others being cut away and falling down as they are no longer attached. You will actually feel a bit "relief" doing this and less pressure being put on you from the energy that these people seem to create.

There might be times when you need to do this again when your feeling a bit overwhelmed or mad with these people and "release" the hold they have on you, and eventually you will not be nearly as affected by these people as you currently are.

I did this technique with an ex-boyfriend that i just could not seem to break free from. He was toxic, he stole from my family, lied/cheated on me, and just was very negative. As he was my "first" I guess it was hard to see past my nose to what he was really like. When I realized my lesson with him, and did the technique above, I was able to move on finally and a much better person after that as well.

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