How to keep trying to concieve fun

Trying to conceive a baby can be an exciting time in your life and a lot of fun! But after a few months of trying, it can start to seem like a chore rather than the awe-inspiring creation of a new life it may have felt like in the beginning. Try these strategies to keep the spark in your baby-making!

Instructions

1. Step 1

   Don’t let it stress you out that you aren’t pregnant yet. Nothing dampens libido like stress. Unfortunately, stress related to the results of your sex life can be the worst possible stress for your sex life! Do things outside the bedroom with your partner---and alone---to de-stress. Trying working out, taking a yoga class, painting or another activity you enjoy.

2. Step 2

   Stay positive. Even though you may feel like moping when it seems like everyone you have ever known and every celebrity under the sun is pregnant and you’re not, fight that urge. If you must, allow yourself one day a month to feel bad for yourself. Let the first day of your period be the first, and only, day you let yourself be negative that cycle. Know that you’re doing everything you possibly can to get pregnant and try to have faith that it will happen.

3. Step 3

   Try something new in bed. A new study suggests that daily sex for seven days improves the quality of your partner’s sperm. Having sex every day, however, can get a little boring. Trying something new that you’re both comfortable with can be a great way to create variety in your daily baby-dance routine. Try using a toy, watching an adult movie, buying new lingerie or sharing your fantasies with each other.

4. Step 4

   Vary the place and time. Get out of the bedroom---and onto the couch, the guest bed, or the living room floor! If you normally wait until bedtime, try setting your clock a little early for some morning baby-making. Anything that creates variety in your quest to conceive can make it more enjoyable.

5. Step 5

   Focus your efforts. Do some research online or at your library to learn when you’re most likely to conceive. You may find out you’ve been trying too early or too late in your cycle. If you’re going to try for a baby seven days in a row, you should ensure that you’re focusing your efforts on the days before, the day of, and the day after you believe you’ve ovulated. You may find that using a basal body temperature thermometer, which can be found at most drugstores for under ten dollars, will be all you need to better plan your schedule. You can graph your temperatures yourself, or use a free website like FertilityFriend.com to quickly record and graph the information.

6. Step 6

   Give yourself a break if necessary. Sometimes, no matter how fertile you are, you or your partner just doesn’t feel up to it. Don’t beat yourselves up over it. If you’re too tired one night, try first thing the next morning. Relieving the pressure to perform on command helps mitigate stress and may even boost the romance in your sex life.

7. Step 7

   Know when to see a doctor. If you’ve been trying for a year and you aren’t pregnant, see your doctor. If you’re over 35, see a doctor after six months of trying. Even if it hasn’t been that long, there’s nothing wrong with making an appointment to see your doctor if you’re worried. If that peace of mind is what you need to be relaxed about the process, you should go ahead and do it!